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writes:So i have always been close with my cousin, even since we were babies we were born 3 days apart. We hang out all the time, staying at eachothers houses stuff like that. He is my best friend i can always rely on him and vice versa.But recently he's went abit strange, like he always wants to near me, he hates when my bf comes round and he sends me douzens of texts if i don't text him back. I have never felt uncomfortable around him until now. I mean we sleep in the same bed together when we stay at eachothers houses thats how close we are.What the hell is with him? It just seems like he wants me all to himself and its starting to freak me out.I have asked him whats up and everything but he just like 'oh i didn't realise thats how i come across' stuff like that.I have even tried to set him up with one of our friends, so he doesn't feel like hes missing out on anythin. But he's not interested.He just wants to be with me all the time, and its just abit strange.Whats with him? What should i do?
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reader, iateadonut  +, writes (13 July 2008):
A boy friend and girl friend of mine started liking each other. I got jealous of both of them because they hung out with me less.
Point being, he could be jealous over just losing a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Bendy and Spirit for your answers.
I have been with my bf for like 9months so I don't understand why he thinks that he's a threat to our friendship, anyhow.
We do still hang out together alone like 2 or 3 times a week so I haven't completely just walked out on him.
I will definately stop sleeping in the same bed as him.
I'll let you know how things go. Thank you again.
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reader, iateadonut +, writes (12 July 2008):
A boy friend and girl friend of mine started liking each other. I got jealous of both of them because they hung out with me less.
Point being, he could be jealous over just losing a friend.
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reader, Secret Teller  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 maybe he thinks your boyfriend isn't good enough for you and just wants to protect you. but i may be wrong i could be something different than the whole protecting you thing.
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Ok. I'm not really sure if his feelings for you are romantic or not. I suppose you'll never really know. It may be that he has accidentally developed feeings for you. Or it could just be that he is jealous and feels like he is losing his best friend. He might be worried that you like your BF more then him. It is pretty common, I sometimes feel jealous when my best friend hangs out with other people, but I don't have 'feelings' for her. He is probably trying to reassure himself that you are stil as close as you always were. It is good that you confronted him, and he probably honestly doesn't realise he is doing this. What you need to do is sit him down and tell him about what he has been doing and how he's been acting. Tell him that he has been making you feel uncomfortable and strange. But don't just make it all about him and his behavior, you also need to reassure him that he is still you best friend and that you value his friendship just as much as you value you relationship with your boyfriend. Tell him he is still a big part of your life, but that your life also doesn't revolve around him. You should probably make a time once a week to hang out with him just the two of you. It will probably make him feel better about you friendship. I really hope your situation gets better.
Bendy xx.
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