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writes:my best and are together for an year now. we dont live in same city so only had met like 2 times and mostly chat over the phone. it is really great and she made clear from the first day that she only likes me as a friend and doesnt want any relationship besides that and i was cool and respected that decision..we used to chat the whole day and it became part of our daily routine.problem is after an year now she has moved to college and i am still at home looking for a job.now she chat with me only for a few hours due to her routine and college.but the whle dy i get restless and tensed when i dont get her message..its like i have become overpossesive.i keeps seeing her fb wall like a wierdo. i check my phone every few seconds to see if i got her message and even though she talks to me for an hour or so.. it keeps coming in my mind that i am gonna loose her. that she is gonna get bored of me. she is gonna left me and why she doesnt chat with me .why she didnt respond to my text..i had always thought of her as my friend and i am doing things like an over possesive bf..its like i cant live without her texting me and its really stupid.help me guys why i am behaving in such a way
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reader, PrincessRiches  +, writes (5 August 2014):
 It may be that you are just feeling a bit insecure that she's moved on with her life and you haven't just yet. Being unemployed and being at home is very difficult, especially when you're friends are doing well. But her moving on with her life doesn't necessarily mean leaving old friends behind. It's just that she has found new adventures. I became a bit like this when I was unemployed...I think it was because I had too much time on my hands to over think and obsess on things. I know getting a job these days is hard, but maybe you could do something in the mean time that will help you meet new people and focus on something else? Perhaps some voluntary work, join an organisation, enroll in a course, anything you like! Once you have other things in your life, whether you have a job or not, you'll still keep in contact with her to see how she is, and you'se will still be friends. If she doesnt reply as often, then you need to accept than sometimes moving on and losing touch is part of life, and you will do the same.
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