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female
age
41-50,
*ady grey
writes:Almost a year ago I got romantically involved with a very close friend. At the time we shared a house and worked together. His feelings for me resulted in his ending a long term relationship. His ex also worked in the same building so it was very intense and chaotic from the beginning. There was an occasion early on when he said he couldn’t do it anymore, we agreed I would move out. I overreacted in how hurt I was and stupidly got very drunk and kissed another man. A few days later my friend said he still wanted to be with me, I told him about what had happened and he was very hurt. We continued seeing each other in one way or other for a few months until he decided he needed time to put the past behind him as it was too much to deal with. We tried to stay friends but it kept getting complicated. I felt he was shutting me out of his life despite how he said he felt about me, he said he wasn’t comfortable having a relationship with me while his ex was still in the same building. He said he would be able to be with me when my contract and his ex's expired.I tried to be patient but it was killing me being so close to him and continually being asked to wait so I said I didn’t want to do it anymore. He didn’t want to lose me and said he would be with me now, so I gave him a chance for a few days, but felt I’d already been waiting for months and nothing had changed. We had a big fight and agreed to leave each other alone.We spoke a few days ago and its clear we are both angry with each other for various reasons, (him feeling he cant trust me, me feeling neglected and shoved aside)But we're still completely mad about each other too. My contract (and his ex's) will finish in two months and I have booked a long holiday. I feel very strongly about him and hope there’s still a chance for us to get back on track. What should I do?
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