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*yperbunny
writes:I feel like completely shit!!!I started seeing a guy who i met through a friend immediately after he just finished with his girlfriend.. we spent the night we met chatting about it and i told him that I know how he feel but in time he'll get over it (his gf cheated on him) anyway that night we ended up sleeping together...we kept seeing each other after this and had sex about ten times withing 10 days id say.. anyway one night i called him while i was out with friends and his ex girlfriend picks up!! Then he takes the phone and tells me he's back with his gf and leave him alone.. and how we both knew where things stood from the start... he wasn't rude about anything and apologised if i felt hurt and he was sorry that his gf picked up the phone... he explained he loved her and wanted to be with her.I knew it was only sex.. but it turned into more than that for me.. he's everything i want in a man.I stupidly got my self pregnant and i have arranged the abortion.. (i know im stupid for allowing this to happen.. please dont tell me ) but now alls he says is to know the abortions been done.. and then finito.. history... FOR ME TO STAY OUT OF HIS LIFE.wHAT DO I DO TO FORGET ABOUT HIM???I just feel totally disrespected. I know i did it to myself.. but i just thought i could have no strings sex... it was the second person i have ever slept with.I cant stop thinking about him... i feel so lonely and again let down :(
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (15 May 2007):
I dont agree with loretta at all.You have not done this to yourself. This man was wounded and you were the only one to give a shit. You were there for him and now hes stung you. I know that he was on the rebound, but from your point of view he was single and would remain that way. I would most likely have thought the same myself. DO NOT make yourself feel bad about this. And DONT blame yourself. I dont agree with the whole ''you made your bed lie in it''. Thats rubbish because he was single and should not have been such an ass. Its his fault, NOT yours. I know hes treated you so bad, but you cant help who you fall in love with or how you feel. I know it hurts, but time really is a healer. And in time you will feel your hurt ease and find other things to think about. He obviously loved his ex and was hurt by her, and now, instead of understanding the hurt he was feeling, hes made you feel like it to. Just try and keep busy, you can message me if you want x
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reader, Farris +, writes (13 May 2007):
 First of all, I am sorry that this man used you... Which is clearly what he has done.
Secondly, I know it is slightly taboo to support abortion, but I think you are wise to not bring a child into this situation. I'm not saying that it couldn't work out, but I don't think it is ever wise to put a child in the middle of a situation like this.
My next piece of advice is this: Forget about him. You should not want to be with a man who has treated you so badly, but unfortunately the heart doesn't always want what the head wants. Move on with your life; hang out with friends or family and do things that you enjoy. Slowly your thoughts will change from him into everything else, and you will get over him.
I know at this point it's difficult and you feel as if you will never stop having these feelings for him, so I wouldn't be surprised if you feel like none of this advice will work.
But this last piece of advice is very important. DO NOT put another man into the position that he put you in. I know sometimes it's easy to rebound because you feel so lonely, but remember how it feels for you now, and don't inflict that on to anyone else.
Best wishes & good luck.
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reader, loretta +, writes (13 May 2007):
 sorry love but u shouldn't have got involved wiv this man in the first place, u knew he'd just split from his ex, came on ur not stupid, shorly u knew he would still have feelings for her.
the fact is he was probebly on the rebound when he met u, he told u were things stood from the start.
dont have this guys baby it wouldn't be fair on the baby, him or his girlfriend, i think u should move on wiv ur life an let him get on wiv his, sorry to be so blunt but sum1's gotta say it how it is, u made ur bed, its time to lie in it, sorry xxxx
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