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writes:hi, I'm in 6th form atm and me and my gf have been going out for 9 months now, we go to the same 6thform and id say were pretty serious if not very serious.My problem is that after 6thform my girlfriend wants to move to a different country to go to uni?!?! or at least some where far away , she want to be independant and stuff. and i dont mind that, but why so far? I'l do anything to stay with her, i dont mind taking a gap year if she wants to go to uni somewhere far away, but whenever we talk about it , its like she wants to break up with me or something. She has said before that in the feature she wants to "have fun" but shes supposibly changed her mind since then. What does that mean? "have some fun" or "go clubbing" etc she talks like she wants to be single in the feature, what the hell is that about?? perhaps im being paranoid, but if you ask me its like shes moving far away just to get away from me. What should i do, i dont really want to ask her about this stuff , i dont want to upset her or anything. Any suggestions would help alot.thanks
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reader, faith_believe_love  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Hi,..dont ever think that she wants to get away from you.If you really love her then let her do what she wants as long as it is for her.You dont have stop studying for about 1 yr. just to prove that you love her.supporting her will do a lot for her and for you too.You could still visit her if she moves or even phone her.But the best thing to do is open it up to her yo will never know the answers if you just keep it in yourself..voice it out.If you continue acting like this then it may upset her.Hope that this helps.Take care.
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reader, jpred +, writes (18 February 2008):
Every single person is different, and sometimes things that appear strange to us are perhaps just the difference in aims and ambition between the "strange" person and ourselves. Moving far away from everything is certainly a test of strength and character, something which some people want to put themselves through to make themselves a better person. Broadening your horizons can help you become more successful and that is probably what your girlfriend is doing.I'm almost sure that she isn't moving away to get away from you, if she wanted to do that she'd dump you straight off rather than put herself through so much hassle and upheaval.I might move further away when I have finished college whereas my girlfriend isn't the type of person to look further afield, but this certainly won't split us up. I've talked to her about it and said we will have to see what happens, there is always a compromise. If she wanted to come with me, fair enough, but I wouldn't want to force her into moving, it would be up to her.I suggest you do talk to your girlfriend about it, ask her what her overall aims are, where she plans to go, show an interest. Talking about it is usually the best way and if you have a genuine concern which you clearly do, you need to be honest or raise the subject somehow. You shouldn't really find it hard to talk to her about it :)
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