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Isn’t it weird for a man to have pictures like these on his phone?

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Question - (11 March 2019) 11 Answers - (Newest, 14 March 2019)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I chatted online to someone who seemed really lovely. He told me that he was very needy, I am done with needy men but I thought I shall give him a chance.

We met, he was lovely but he talked too much which irritating me, while he was showing me pictures of his family (he is a widow), I saw pictures of cocks. I did not say anything but he saw my facial expression and explained that it was things that his clients send to him.

He was married and has 4 kids, but I find it weird for a man to have such pictures on his phone.

Am I right to see red flags. Do I give him a chance or tell him that there is no chemistry rather than go into the picture issue?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2019):

Many thanks to everyone for advice, I am the writer of this question, I ignored him, blocked and deleted his number, I feared he may be bi, I am just not into bi men, his me me me was so irritating. He was 60 years old. I am happy I asked for advice. thanks again to all of you.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (13 March 2019):

Honeypie agony auntLOL @ Cindy.. Silkies are rather lovely :)

Why on EARTH would clients send him dick-pics? HOW does that makes sense in ANY career? Unless he know the artist Whitney Bell (she is the one who turned 150 unsolicited dick pics into "art").

I'd say there are 2 explanations.

1. The pics are of his OWN dick and he has them ON his phone because he has SENT time to women.

2. They pics are of OTHER men's dicks - why he has them? "shrug" either to compare with, to "rate" (like some 12 year old in the gym showers) or because he is bisexual and looking to perhaps hook up with a man.

I can't IMAGINE a straight man having a "gallery" of OTHER men's dick pics. His own? Eh, depending on his age, not super surprised. I am surprised that he would NOT have MORE common sense and have a FOLDER for these dick pics so he doesn't OVERSHARE with a romantic prospect like yourself! However, That was good for you as now you know that THIS is something he does.

However, Like N91 and Cindy mentions... DON'T pursue a guy who has traits (NEEDY) when you find that off putting, WHY on Earth would you pursue someone who already has a "strike" against him ? (well, 2 really since dick pics is rather off putting too).

STOP ignoring red flags. And STOP settling for men who aren't really the kind of men you WANT to date.

Wish him well, block him and move on.

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A male reader, Harry29 United Kingdom +, writes (13 March 2019):

Harry29 agony auntI agree with an earlier contributor, I think that they are pictures of HIS cock and he let you "accidentally" see them in case you were impressed and wanted to see/play with it in real life.

NOT nice: I suggest you heed the advice of others here and run likke crazy away from this creep!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2019):

To be honest, there is only one reason a guy has dick pics on his phone. They are his and he has been sexting other girls. Make of that what you will.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy + , writes (13 March 2019):

CindyCares agony aunt It's not weird if he sells exotic poultry for a living, and his clients send him pictures of Silkie Bantams, or Sumatras, or other rare chicken : "Please send me a cock just like the one in the alleged pic… "...

But for some reason I don't think this is the kind of cocks we are talking about, so yeah, it's weird. Or maybe not really weird, lots of people have homosexual fantasies, but to SAVE dick pics , and to be so casual in sharing them with you, … off-putting, isn't it ?

That's a moot point, though. Or at least it should be. You say that you are done with needy men . First thing he does, he admits he is very needy. And you- want to give him a chance .

Why ?!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2019):

Probably he is one of those guys who take pleasure in sending those kind of pictures to women all over the internet.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (13 March 2019):

N91 agony aunt‘I am done with needy men but I thought I will give him a chance’ So you’re not done with them then?

You’ve already told us that you don’t want to date this kind of man again so why do you neee advice to tell you not to do it?

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (13 March 2019):

Anonymous 123 agony auntOmg you still have to consider? Cut him off immediately with no explanation whatsoever because he isn't worth any of it. Please run for the hills... immediately!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2019):

Yes it's weird. What kind of business is he in where clients would send cock pics to him and why would he keep them?

He's described himself as very needy. He talks too much which was irritating to you, although he may have been nervous. But most disturbing of all were the cock pics, which he didn't seem to mind showing you. Red flags all over the place. Let him down gently and move on.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (13 March 2019):

Run for the hills! Straight-men don't save dick pics on their phones! Why would he have pictures of his client's penises on his phone? Is he in the sex-trade?

Why would he have them on his personal phone??? You can't possibly be that naive!

This guy is a wacko! Cut all ties, delete and block!

Don't get into a big discussion or mention the pictures. Get out quickly. Be short, sweet, and to the point. Make sure he doesn't contact you anymore.

He's waving big red-banners and alarms are going-off!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2019):

On your first date his incessant chatter annoyed you even before you saw cocks on his phone.

They're likely not to be cocks sent to him by his clients, most likely dick pics taken of his own bits.

Regardless of why he's concealing his reasons for this, he's annoying! Can't you really find someone better?Imagine his wittering in a month, six months, six years. As someone in their forties, have you really got time to waste on an annoying guy?

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