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writes:on friday night my boyfriend and i hung out and had dinner. he told me on thursday that he might be going out but wasnt sure yet. when he picked me up on friday he was very indecisive the whole night, and kept asking me 'should i go out?' he asked me this about 8 times throughout the night and i told him it was up to him and twice he said 'nah id rather stay home with you and i dont have any money for drinks anyway' and then kept asking me if he should go out again. at this point i was feeling a bit sad and frustrated because i would never do this to him and he was going away camping the next day so i wouldnt see him till sunday. and i told him obiously you do want to go out thats why you keep asking and he said that he did want to go out but also wanted to be with me. he decided to go out "for just an hour" and took me back home at 11, i was annoyed and just said bye and didnt say have fun this weekend like i would usually say to him. i think he knew i was annoyed because he was trying to make small chat on the drive home and be affectionate to me but i was being quiet.is what my boyfriend did acceptable? why do i feel so sad and annoyed? i cried when i got home because he dropped me off and i was alone and he was out partying. i didnt text him the next morning to say have fun at camp. should i? am i just being immature? please help me.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 He's watching his budget with you. The party late at night is more a priority but he still feels responsible for you. I never went through that party stage because I can't drink. I hate the noise and being around strangers. People always say have fun, experience life so I guess there is no way to tell young people not to party. You feel sad because he's doing the minimum requirements to keep you there. He'll be with you only when you ask him to, not because he wants to. Before you become boyfriends and girlfriends there should be expectations of how you are going to spend your time. You knew he's the party type so you can't change this and ask him to be more into you.
It's just this one day. I can't tell what he's going to be like after he comes back. You are not being immature. You have to accept and validate whatever you are feeling. When you feel sad you are contemplating whether this relationship is right for you. It's only when you say or do something to him to cause a fight then you would be immature.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 He was asking permission, not trying to decide if he should go. You pushed him in the direction of going, so he got some drinks with his friends. You wanted to see him before the camping trip, but told him you knew he wanted to drink so he should go. Now you're upset that he did what you said, not what you were thinking. You're being a little harsh on him, especially when the camping trip is so short anyway that you'll see him Sunday. It's not like he's going away for a month.
Talk to him, tell him you really missed him, wanted to see him before the trip, and explain that you wish he had seen that, but don't be angry at him for not reading your mind.
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