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writes:Hey, I recently bought FIFA 12, I'm starting to enjoy it as last year I I'd not like FIFA 11. Anyway it's gotten me in the mood of football,But heres the problem:I'm one of the nerdy kids who don't fit in, don't worry I won't bore you feeling sorry for myself, the ant the point.When I was about 10/11, I was bullied at my foot all club, I wasn't the bet player, probably they least. I sad I will NEVER get myself bulled again. I've managed to retain that pledge, sort of.I'm not overweight, I'm a bit on the skinny side, however I'm not psychically fit, I haven't done any after school sports ever since I was 10/11. I struggle running more than 1 1/2 miles.i feel I'll be eft out and bullied, agin.So what should I do? Shall I try it? Shall I risk it? Are all football clubs stuck up 'cool' kids? Considering I don't do sport ever. Shall I go for this? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): As an older sister to an annoying little boy (that I love anyway..) that plays nothing but video games,you have no idea how relieved I would be if he got up and started playing SOMETHING. I don't ever want him to be bullied, and I want him to be fit and play sports so he can fit in. He already has ADHD and his constant twitchy-ness is considered annoying by many, I would love it if he joined a team of some sort. Your sisters are probably the same way. We can be bitches (girls don't just fight physically, they gang up and ruin people's lives) but when it comes down to it, we love our brothers no matter what. I fight, call my brother a loser, and am probably a bad big sister most of the time, but if I EVER heard that any little punk was messing with my little brother--there would be hell to pay. Only I can mess with him. Most likely, your sisters are the same way. Have a little faith.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (27 February 2012):
 Such negativity, you didn't even try. You told one person who was rude,and because of that you gave up. Your never gonna do anything interesting if you keep letting people influence you like this.
I don't know about popular kids, but you do get more respect if your fit and can run fast and hit the ball. They don't care if your cool or not, they only care if you can play ball.
I HATE FOOTBALL!!!!!! Love computer games though :)
PLAN OF ACTION
1. First get fit on your own. Run around the block. Walk up stairs, you need to get fit enough so you can keep up with the others. Talk to your P.E teacher in private (or your school nurse) they can give you tips and tricks about building up your fitness.
2. Get good with the ball. You don't need others to play. That Brazilian guy Pele, greatest footballer the world has ever known, he didn't have no ball, he didn't only play with friends, he grabbed a tin can and just kicked it all over the place, all by himself. Get ball and practise your ball skills alone in the park where nobody can bother you. Think you kick it from one foot to another, and then you try kicking it on to your head, then you try kicking from behind, then you do some stupid thing where you flip over. I saw them doing that on TV, but I don't think you should try that without an adult to help you. The England team also practise kicking and running, they have some objects and try kicking the ball around them without knocking them over..... now you is in training.
Did I tell you... I HATE FOOTBALL!!!
3. There are tons of stupid football kids always playing in the park, you can just go over and ask if you can join, especially if there are only a few of them, they always need more people to join in. It might be scary, but it works. I always drag kids over and throw them all together and it looks like they have fun.
4. There are tons of football clubs outside of school, Church, police, local neighbours, tons of people run football clubs for kids. Here, government has done the searching for you http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/YoungPeople/DG_10016105
You'll meet new friends there, if you don't get on with the kids at school.
5. Do not avoid P.E, the whole point is to get fit and active so you can play the stupid ball. Make your P.E teacher your best friend, by going to the classes, working hard, and not making noise about taking a shower. You will get fitter and play better and you'll find that people will start to want you on their team.
6. Ignore the noise from negative people, they is just holding you back.
7. If you don't like the football, maybe you might like swimming better, they also have teams and groups for that. Or maybe ditch football and look for computer classes.. But I got admit, you get more popular if you do the sports thing, it makes you look bigger, and keeps you alive longer.
Good luck, and don't give up, you need to try if you want to succeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank for the advice guys, this has given me a few pointers.Sadly I've been a bit put off. I told my friend my interest on this, I ask I'd I could join his team, he just laughed an tool it as a joke. And this guys my real friend. Why is he being such a twat?My problem is telling other people im getting into football, like I said above, I'm scred of even family laughing at me because I started an interest into something other than Xbox. Maybe I deserve it, but I'm trying to change my life, and none will let me..There's noone friendly I know that it'll practise with Me, my sisters are bitches, my dad's not fit to do really anything like that, I stay clear of the set 1's for PE In my year, there usually stuck up popular kids. The only real friend I have I could practise with is the friend I said above, who took it as a joke.I feel alone, I hate this. No one will give me a chance, should I even bother now? I'm probably not Been good enough. Yeah yeah, practise makes perfect, but you need a chance to be perfect first..I had a idea, that'd I'd be one of those coercive supporters like everyone else, but I guess only people that play football can do that,
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reader, maverick494  + ♥, writes (24 February 2012):
Having been severely bullied in both elementary and high school I have come to understand how these things work. Sports have always been my way out of that negative environment. So yes, do try. But first some advice:
- work on posture. Keep your back straight, look people in the eye, walk confidently. You'll have to watch out for getting a 'strut' though. A guy in my class had that and it was laughable. So get family members to watch and critique posture and improve on it. This will help you come across as more confident, plus it's just better for your body.
- maintain eye contact. If you have a habit of looking away all the time, work on it. You don't have to look people in the eye always--that would be considered staring ;-) -- but make sure you don't get intimidated by someone
- work on your body. Ask for the team requirements and make sure you meet them (and then some!) when you apply. Seek out the help of an active family member or friend. If you hate running on your own, get a jump rope and do that. There's a reason top boxers continue to do this. Do bodyweight exercises for strength (you won't need any equipment.) Add some music to make it fun and you should be able to keep this up to reach your goal.
- maintain your dignity. Don't give people the chance to badmouth you. They ask why you're there? Tell them you're here because you like the sport and want to have fun and had assumed they were there for the same reason. If you don't have a comeback to something, simply roll your eyes and go about your business, show them their comment was not worthy of a reply.
- be disciplined. Even if the team is hard on you at first (which I doubt), perseverance always pays off. Once prejudiced teammates see you're giving it your best and that you're not thrown off by their taunts, they will warm up to you. After all, you're all on the same side ;-)
Honestly, give it a go. You'll meet a whole bunch of new people and possibly new friends. You have nothing to lose.
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reader, jamespike  +, writes (23 February 2012):
I always found sports to be a great way to meet new people and make friends. Kids in sports tend to have better self esteem then kids who are inactive. If you get cut its really not that big a deal in the long run. Just hold your head up high move on. Now if your really serious about it you better start practising and like some of the others suggested get into shape.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): Yes go for it. First of all, find a mate or family member who will have a kick about with you to practise your skills and get busy working on your stamina. To train for anything, you need to eat well first, so look at your diet and make sure you are eating correctly, then start running and generally exercising.
Most clubs are ok but they might have the odd one or two guys who are a challenge, so be prepared for a bit of banter but dont take things to heart. Stand up for yourself and you will gain respect. Start getting more involved in other school sports too, not only football. Any sport will help you get fitter and give you confidence. All the best.
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reader, YouWish + ♥, writes (23 February 2012):
 This may sound illogical and may not make sense, but the surest way of getting bullied is actually trying to avoid getting bullied. If you're perceived as a scared target who cowers at the first sign of teasing, it'll intensify.
I agree with Shadow on getting fit. At your age, the thing you really need is speed and endurance, so I recommend running or cross country skiing in winter. This will build your legs and calfs. If you can also manage it, some time in a martial art will improve your discipline, give you a lot of self-confidence as well as boost your fitness level and make the bullies think twice before so much as touching you.
I played soccer as a kid too (U.S.), and we went to the state championship twice (won the second year). Sometimes it's a matter of finding your fit. I sucked as a forward, but on defense, nothing but NOTHING got past me, and I loved it.
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reader, Shadow Rose + ♥, writes (23 February 2012):
 If you aren't physically fit, I think you should first work on getting more fit, because if you aren't fit, you wont make the team.
And really, it all depends on the people in the club. Some people are nice, some aren't.
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reader, Beaniepants +, writes (23 February 2012):
 Absolutely I think you should go for it!! You are only young once, and this could be something you end up really loving :o)
So...start walking/hiking. Turn that into jogging, as soon as you can do it without wanting to fall over. Get yourself in better shape with better endurance before you even put yourself out there with these guys.
If you have anyone- friend cousin, somebody in your life who can help you learn some pointers and throw a ball around with you, even better.
I'm thinking just go, learn, become an asset to the team...and you may not have anything to worry about with the football guys.
Good luck to you, I really hope you do this and enjoy it!! :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): I was bullied too. And I know, it hurts, so bad. Its the type of thing that you can't forgive. It causes so much pain. It drove me to near insanity. I am so ashamed to admit, that in a desperate attempt to make people like me, I picked on other kids too. What did it accomplish? Nothing. I just spread the hate. I don't believe in living with regrets, but its the one thing I truly regret. I would take it back in a second.
My point is is that bullying does crazy things. It drives nice little girls to near insanity, and it prevents opportunites for perfectly nice boys because they are scared. I don't say it condesendingly, bullying made you that way. Listen, practice, think hard, and decide if you want to play. But make sure you throw out the prospect of embarassment before you decide. As they say, you'll never know unless you try.
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reader, tobson +, writes (23 February 2012):
well, I will speak about my football club experience in Germany only, but there starting at a clube at the age of 13/14 is quite late and that s what I did. I might not have been the most popular guy but I was never bullied even when I was bad. Team spirit stands above this and it is in the interest of every kid that you get better too. So, I d advise you to try out - dont loose faith if you hear a comment or two, after all kids are pretty stupid at that age. But remember you are doing it for yourself and if you end up not liking it - you tried it and you can quit it too if that is what you decide.
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