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writes:in a relationship with a sepatated lady for 2 months, she blows hot and cold in the relationship, feel like im on a piece of string , brings her business act home when shes over and then relaxes after a while, married for 19 years before they separated and hes also in another relationship, he has left her in debt and pays for their mortgage , hes manipulating as he has stopped paying mortgage before when they are in disagreement, she hasnt changed locks and communicates with him open fashion , daughter still living in her house, im divorced myself and am 35 shes 43 , shes admitted being confused and is afraid to be in a steady relationship which is even difficult for her to say "relationship" her x has took money from her business without her knowing and has trust issues, i have maintained respect for her and i keep telling her i wont let her down but seems to push her away, is this relationship worth staying in?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): It sounds like she needs time to sort out her divorce before she sees someone. If you don't let her do that, it could cause much-unneeded stress in your relationship with her. She's going through a rough time, which is why she's acting so strangely around you, but she's being honest in telling you about her feelings and fears. It's up to you whether you want to stick around and hope things pan out for the best, or if you want to give her some time to figure out what she needs to do.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (29 July 2010):
 sounds like you're committed to her and she's stabilized from the past heartbreak.. My guess would be it's worth working on it some more
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