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Is this just an excuse for breaking up? Or what does he mean by his remarks?

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Question - (30 August 2014) 2 Answers - (Newest, 30 August 2014)
A female United States age 26-29, *shboo2yu writes:

My boyfriend is ending out relationship because he said he was unhappy and didn't feel like himself.

He told me he wants to focus on himself and make himself happy and then he can focus on us .

I am confused about focusing on himself part ? Is that a easy way to say it's over completely and I don't want you ? He said he felt he was becoming bitter . O asked him if he is going to sleep around why focusing on himself and he did tell me he might here and there is that a sign that it's completely over I love him so much and feel bad he isn't happy we did argue a lot and I also moved to Florida and he is still in New York would long distance be the problem as well

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 August 2014):

Honeypie agony auntI think the distance is more the problem for the relationship than anything else. NOT everyone are cut out to be able to want/handle LDR.

If he feels like it's NOT working for him, then WHY cling on to him?

I think you are taking him wanting to end it as a insult to you. Like YOU aren't good enough. But that is not what he said. He said that he isn't happy being in a relationship right now.

You said you two argued a lot, so there was the added stress of arguments as well as distance - that one is a tough nut for anyone to crack.

Let him go, set him free. Find someone you are more compatible with.

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A female reader, Ashboo2yu United States +, writes (30 August 2014):

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Ashboo2yu agony auntI moved because of my grandmother and mother passing away and the only place I could live was Florida with my dad until I got time to move back to New York and thank you for you advice I see why he would want his space it's just so hard and I cry every night just thinking about what if he finds someone else

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