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Is this how most guys work after a first date?

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Question - (9 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 July 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, hope you can help me out!

A guy I'd been talking to for a few weeks via Facebook asked me on a date which took place last week. We got on really well! I've never experienced a date like it in my life, I felt so relaxed and comfortable in his presence and we talked about everything! He bought me all my drinks, walked me home and we shared a kiss.

Throughout the night, he kept saying how glad he was to meet me - appearing very keen! He also repeated a couple of times that we should definitely meet up again and go out for a meal, which I agreed to.

At times, he appeared quite shy and looked away quickly when we made eye contact. I think I may have done the same, but we had a laugh about how nervous we both were before the date and openly talked about it.

Anyway, after our date I decided that I should wait for him to contact me - instead of me chasing him, because I know this puts guys off! and perhaps I am being impatient, but it has been over a week since we met up and i've not heard anything from him!

Is this how most guys work after a first date? This was also the case with my first boyfriend, he didn't contact me afterwards and it drove me mad - so I wrote to him suggesting we meet up, to which he agreed to! then soon enough we ended up in a relationship.

I know he has a busy life schedule; he works full-time and does a lot of band rehearsals. But I don't think this should excuse him from contacting me on Facebook or by text.

I really like him, we had a great connection! I just don't know how to proceed about seeing him again.

Can anyone explain this behaviour? and also, What I should do?

Thank you for reading!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010):

Just send a brief text asking how he is. Could be any number of reasons why he hasn't been in touch. After that, leave it up to him to respond, don't be insistent as that could put him off.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (9 July 2010):

Danielepew agony auntHe could be busy, or he might be trying not to look desperate, or both.

Question, with q: Did you let him see you liked him? If he somewhat got the feeling that you, er, didn't really want to see him again, he may be thinking he should NOT contact you.

If you are really into him, a friendly e-mail should work. Only don't do it right now.

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