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Is this guy just a user?

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Question - (30 December 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 1 January 2013)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

When dating a guy for 2years he is laying in bed with me present girl freind a ex girlfreind calls while we are in bed making love.She tells my guy she loves him and he responds back and tells her he loves her to. Then hang up the phone and tells me am i going to pay the bills. This female has money and caters to hism every needs. i am unemployed. We had a good relationship up until now. He tells me she spoils him.What do i do? he tells me he loves me and she is convient. I do still love him.

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A female reader, IWISH1969 United States +, writes (1 January 2013):

IWISH1969 agony auntThe solution is a no brainer: Stay with him if you want to be treated this way. Leave him if you don't.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2013):

He's only treating you the way you allow him to treat you. If you do not like the way he is treating you, leave him. Plain and simple.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2012):

Its okay to love him. We cant help who we love but it doesnt mean you have to live with him or tolerate his BS. It sounds as if your self confidence is at rock bottom. Would you have stayed in the bed say, 20 or 30 years ago while your partner took a call and told an ex he loved her? I very much doubt it. Can you find any work? Even a part time job? You need to get back into work, regain your pride and independence and once you are no longer reliant on this man you can leave, because that is what you need to do.

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A female reader, CANDY61 United States +, writes (31 December 2012):

Is this guy a user? If you think he's a user then he's a user... Sounds like you're the ex girlfriend, nothing more than a booty call because the other girlfriend has the money and the booty call.

What do I do? Well, you can do like the other post said, stay there and be a fifty some years old fool or you can pack your $h^^ and get out...OR...You can stay there since you are unemployed and just let him do whatever he want to do.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (31 December 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntWell.... you can continue to be his fool.... OR, you can decide NOT TO BE (his fool).......

Figure out which you prefer to be... then play that part in his life.... (If you choose NOT to be his fool, then you can drop the ".... in his life..." bit, because YOU will be "elsewhere..."

Good luck.......

P.S. A PHONE CALL whilest you and he are being intimate??? AND.... he answered it?????? WHAT KIND OF GUY are you being intimate with??????

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (31 December 2012):

tennisstar88 agony auntIt sounds like everyone is getting used. You're getting used by your boyfriend(?) for sex. You're using your boyfriend for financial means. And your boyfriend is using his not so ex girlfriend for sex and money.

There are no victims here.

I suggest you dump your boyfriend who uses you for sex, get a job, and pay your own bills. You will then feel more confident and independent.

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A female reader, Aunty Susie Australia +, writes (31 December 2012):

Aunty Susie agony auntSo, you had a good relationship up until the moment you found out that there was another woman in his life? He is cheating on both you and her - So, you might want to think about that. You will get angry - when decide that that is not what you deserve. Then think about this - can you love a man who would use a woman, the way that he has been using this other woman?

You need to have more respect for yourself. You deserve better than this man. Start the New Year wanting more for yourself. xx

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