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writes:Last week I went to a meeting with a potential new client for the company I work for. The key lady I had met briefly the week before and the rest of the room were new to me.Throughout the meeting she made a point to talk to me despite the fact that I wasn’t leading the meeting. Asking me questions (nothing invasive) about my personal and professional life which was fine. At the end of the meeting she walked my colleagues and I out and as we stood and spoke for a few minutes she keep touching my arm to be tactile to which my colleagues noticed. She then pulled me aside and asked me to call her the following morning, despite the fact that I’m not her key contact or the most senior person from my company in the meeting.The next day I called her and at the top of the call she told me she felt drawn to me. We spent 30 minutes discussing work but life in general and we were getting on really well. At one point she even mentioned that we must have dinner sometime, not that unusual in the industry I work in.My question is she flirting with me? I can sometimes be naive when it comes to reading people so I wanted to get a second opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2019): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi all
Thanks for the responses on this.
To follow up and ask a cheeky follow up question if I can....?
I’ve decided to go for a new job at another client so called this lady to say goodbye (in a prefofessional sense).
She sounded genuinely disappointed that I was leaving and said she felt that we had good professional chemistry and that she wanted to stay in touch at my new company.
Maybe I read into it? Professional chemistry is a thing right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2019): I was my boyfriend's client. But he was never that overt or aggressive. It took us a year of knowing each other for it to cross the line. He's no longer the owner of that company and I'm no longer a client. We're still happily together.
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reader, imhereforthehelp  +, writes (7 May 2019):
Yes, she is flirting with you. What she is doing is very unprofessional especially if she is asking about your personal life so quickly. If YOU feel uncomfortable with the situation do not hesitate to push away and simply tell her that you aren't interested. If you are interested and want to get to know her more and be more than partners at work, i suggest you do it away from work and keep things professional and casual. That's all i have to say, good luck!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (6 May 2019):
 Yes, I think she is. I also think she is being inappropriate and aggressive in her "pursuit".
And I think (the biggest point here) is that YOU need to put on your professional face and demeanor.
JUST because someone asks about your personal life doesn't MEAN you owe them details. You can always answer in a very non-committal way, that doesn't REVEAL too much of your personal life. Why? Because it CAN come back to biting you in the ass.
Let's say this woman had been a guy. I can tell you that Most women would feel the behavior to be REALLY inappropriate.
You chatted with her and she PRESUMED that meant she could hit on you and tell you that she felt drawn to you. Can you SEE how creepy that behavior can come across?
And then YOU not setting ANY boundaries? Not good either. It can cast doubt on your decision-making when it comes to business.
So yeah, I think she was hitting on you and being a creeper.
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