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22-25,
*erry-boo
writes:Hi, me and my boyfriend met on Facebook,we've met 5 times and have been going out for two weeks.We used to text all the time, almost 24\7. Now I'm fed up and every time he texts me I ignore it and reply an hour later. It makes me sad to think that one day we will break up and he will find someone better. He want's to do sexual things and I'm not ready and I've told him I'm not ready. He Said he'll Wait as long as I wait for him. When he said this I started overthinking and thought he will do sexual stuff with his "girl best friend". I would do sexual stuff when I feel ready but then I wouldn't because he will tell all his friends and I'm worried he'll use me and I'll get called names. I can't stop thinking about him and it's making me feel down. I really love him. But I remember once we went to the shops and his mate walked into him. His mate told me about how much he flirts with someone lets say her name is X. Then that makes me think he's only got with me to get over X. Is this a healthy relationship? I don't know what to do should I stop texting him? Is he using me?
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reader, Alba5 +, writes (9 March 2016):
First after being together for just two weeks he wants to do sexual things with you and your age is between 13 and 15? You're quite young and I think you need to learn about the word "Respect". A boy should like you for you not about sexual favours you can do for him. Second you are afraid he's going to tell his friends...... Well he's a keeper if you think that's what he'll do! What a fine Prince you've found yourself there.Third you're afraid he will find someone better? Self esteem honey love yourself a bit more he should be scared he won't find a better person than YOU! Believe me from a person who knows finish with this guy, wait till you meet a wonderful guy who puts you on a pedestal and adores you. Otherwise you are going to be hurt and probably open the door to bad choices in the future!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 March 2016):
 You say you used to text all the time but now you get fed up and take your time replying to him, why is that? Why don't you like having a conversation with him anymore? What makes you think that you both will break up? He says he will wait for you, so is that not enough?
I am happy that you have told him you are not ready, that is the correct thing to do, as your age shows 13-15 you are still much to young for a sexual relationship. But he has told you he will wait for you, so as long as he is not putting any pressure on you then that is a good sign. Just enjoy his company and hanging out with him. If you don't enjoy spending time with him then maybe you should break up. As maybe you are not ready for a boyfriend yet.
His friend is probably just jealous because he has a girlfriend and is having a joke with you, you should not take this to serious I don't think he would be with you if he didn't want to be.
You say you met him on Facebook? Do you have friends in common? Is he the same age as you?
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reader, Sam Wilson  +, writes (9 March 2016):
 Well both of you are still very young...
And unless he showed you some other side that you havent written here, Im sorry but I think he only wants sex...well its typical for boys your age to have that mindset.
You've only met 5 times, and Im in no position to tell you that what you're feeling is not love. But she has a girl bestfriend and flirts with X...that just screams trouble. I hope he really is telling the truth that he'll wait for you but thats only words...
Your young find a boyfriend interested in you and not on what you have or what you can give. Its for your own good.
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