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Is this a good way to keep her on her toes and interested?

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Question - (15 November 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 16 November 2012)
A male United States age 30-35, *ensativeguy010 writes:

Hello everyone I just wanted some insight! So I've recently started dating my ex of a few years ago and since then we've both matured and have learned a lot since then. I am very happy to be dating her and her vise versa, we connect really well and both fell the exact same way and are ready for a long run. One thing I want to make sure I'm doing while dating her is to give her her space, and not be so clingy like I used to be. I used to get paranoid all the time that she would just stop being interested and wouldn't like me anymore. Now I k.ow that's silly and that was an issue due to being clingy. The way I want to work at this relationship is by basically play the push and pull thing. What I Di now is we will hang out and ill stay the night and we will have a good time hanging and the next day I will dissappear essentially and not txt, call, nothing. Until she contacts me. Is this a good way to keep her on her toes and keep her interested? We also just had sex for the first time and I felt like that is something that will bring us closer.

Excited to hear your thoughts! Thank you!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012):

To be quite honest, it sounds like a bit of a pain if you have to play games. A lot of effort!

If she doesn't like you the way you are - ie a bit clingy - then you have to ask yourself if she is really the one for you.

If you're not looking for something serious, then yes, you'll keep her on her toes for now by doing this. But long term... you're pretending to be something you aren't.

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A male reader, DV1 United States +, writes (15 November 2012):

DV1 agony auntAbsolutely... Live your life, and occasionally text her, but be you and do what you do on a daily basis... If she wants to be with you, she'll find a way to fit into your life...

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A male reader, IHateWomanBeaters United States +, writes (15 November 2012):

IHateWomanBeaters agony auntThat seems like a good thing to do.

You guys did your thing, and now she can contact you.

Given your history, just doing that is good.

Say what you need to say when you are in front of her, then let her text you again.

She is the one who seemed to need her space, so when she misses you, she will text you.

It is that simple.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012):

It shouldn't be about playing games. If you feel you were too clingy before just be aware & give her some space. I dated a guy who called me throughout the day & it drove me nuts. But there should be a nice balance that works for both of you. Good luck.

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