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Is this a date? Or just 2 friends going out?

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Question - (19 May 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 19 May 2011)
A male Italy age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid,

I need your help with a great urgency until WEDNESDAY.

Three weeks ago I started to become close with someone from my office. I am bisexual but I never fell in love with a guy before and I think he is straight. We become closer and we are really good friends now, he is very kind to me, always talks with me, we go to lunch together and we even meet on weekends. Suddenly I realised that I started to fall in love and I feel hopeless because he is definitely straight but sometimes I feel like he is also interested in guys or is this because I am too desperate. While we were talking I mentioned him that there is a nice new restaurant and then he sound interested. After a couple days when I forgot all this conversation he suddenly said to me that we should go that restaurant for a dinner. So we decided to go on Wednesday afternoon. Is this a date coming from a guy I know he is straight or is this something normal for office friends?

What should I do? How can I understand he is interested with me or not? I cannot move on without being with him, the love inside me affects everything in my life. I do not want to lose him also by telling all the truth...

Please help me.

Sincerely.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011):

Thank you very much for your answers. I really needed some advice this love for him making everything harder, my mind is not working properly nowadays. Thank you so much again.

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A male reader, aaringurl Philippines +, writes (19 May 2011):

I think he just wants to be friendly with you. Being friendly doesn't really mean he's into you or something. Never ever misinterpret his signals, you'd get hurt in the end if you expect too much though.

Go with him to this restaurant and be like, the tour guide, make him feel your company is as warm or better than anyone he's been with. And just be friendly, set aside love for a sec and just concentrate on befriending the guy.

Always start at level 1, never jump to level 10 or something right away. Step by step is the key. Oh yea, also, be genuine in everything you say and do, and don't act rehearsed. Keep it cool, and goodluck ^^

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011):

It's possible he is also gay or bi and not able to say, but unless you've had some real indication try not to read anything into this.

Let the friendship develop and see what happens. I realise this could be painful if you want more and he doesn't, but people are not all up front about things and often it takes time.

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