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Is there something wrong with me for being in love with a much younger girl?

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Question - (23 December 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 24 December 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

[Moderator note: The OP is not asking for advice on how to pursue a young girl. He just wants reassurance that he's normal for fantasizing about being with her when she's older.]

Hi I really like this 10 year old girl I dream about her that she is 5 years older my age and she is my girlfriend and we kiss. I love her and I don't know what to do because she obviously doesn't know that I love her. My brother is good friends with her younger brother and our family often gets invited for meals round there and other things I don't know what to do because I love her so much I told a few of my friends which are my age and they said I'm sick and a pedafile. I think there might be something wrong with me because I'm a christian and go to her church and her dad is pastor? I have loved her for at least a year. Is there something wrong with me?

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A female reader, Abbiestar United Kingdom +, writes (24 December 2009):

Abbiestar agony auntAwww I think that's actually pretty cute!! It's not like your having dirty dreams about her, you're dreaming about her being your girlfriend and such! Maybe right now it seems like such a great age gap, but in the future it won't be such an issue. I totally have this really sweet love story in my head. YOu guys know each other since you were little kids, and since you've said your families are friends maybe that friendship could continue years from now and mayeb when you both are all grown up you'll realize you're meant for each other :)

I'm so sorry for the cheesyness. lol.

good luck!! :)


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A female reader, LoviesBrknHeart Puerto Rico +, writes (24 December 2009):

wait til shes 18 if you love her so much ...until then leave her alone... 10 yr old girls are only just starting to push barbies to the side... way too young man.. Serously

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009):

Looks like you learned the hard way to keep this crap to yourself.

There is nothing wrong with fantasies. Even if they are distasteful. The thing that shows what we trully are is how we deal with them.

NEVER. And I cannot stress that enough. NEVER, act on, or even consider acting on these fanatasies. As long as they remain in your head, they hurt no one. But the moment they go beyond that is the moment you will end up being ass-raped in jail for the rest of your life.

If by some chance you two fall in love when she is 15 or 16 and you are 20 or 21. All well and good, both of you will be old enough for it to be much less icky. Though some of my more prudish counterparts will still object.

Until then, focus your attentions elsewhere and live your life as a teenager and let her live hers as a kid.

Flynn 24

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