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writes:Well, I am 13 years old and I have never had a boyfriend. All of my friends have had several boyfriends but me none. My friends say that I am pretty and I am as cute as them and my personality is great so why have they all had boyfriends and I haven't? IS there something wrong with be because I have never had a boyfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone, it makes me feel alot better. my friends say i am stupid that i havent had a boyfriend. they arent very supportive, so i am ignoring them and enjoying life the way i am and am going to have fun while it lasts
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reader, ghdpinkboys  +, writes (16 March 2008):
No there is absolute NOTHING wrong with you because you havnt had a boyfriend, theres someone out there for EVERYONE! I didnt want to get caught up with all the boyfriends, when it is over you feel absolute TERRIBLE and distressed for weeks. It can also put your self-confidence down, witch is what you DONT want at the age of 13. Enjoy being single, wait for the right person, dont just rush into boyfriends because what your friends are doing, were all unique! You will find one soon! Good luck x
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reader, classicfun8 +, writes (16 March 2008):
Don't worry about not having a boyfriend just yet! Trust me I know how bad it must make you feel. I didn't get my first boyfriend or kiss for that matter until I was 21! I was constantly told how attractive I was both on the outside and in. I went to many school dances with my other single friends, spent Saturday nights at slumber parties, and holidays with my family. That's not to say I didn't have opportunities to date boys but it got to a point when I realized that a lot of boys are only out for one thing and personally I wasn't into being used in that way. So I focused on things that mattered to me such as staying in shape or focusing on school work. Then to my surprise I met the guy of my dreams when I least expected it. Seriously don't let the fact that you haven't had a boyfriend get you down. I know how you must feel left out from a lot of the new experiences your friends must be having but think of it this way, they can have all the awkward and uncomfortable first times and you can learn from their mistakes! You'll make some lucky guy very happy one day when you least expect it. Oh and just a side note: Don't try to change who you are or compromise your values just to fit in with your friends and classmates in the end it really isn't worth it.
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reader, happytochat  + ♥, writes (16 March 2008):
I used to feel exactly how you feel! I am 19 years old and never had my first kiss and bf until I was 17.
People would always say that I was pretty and such a lovely person to be around, yet no guys ever asked me out. I was always so confused about that and tended to beleive that there was something wrong with me and that those people were jsut saying all those things to be nice.
I always felt under pressure to have a bf. Then one day, to my shock horror, I got one! And let me just tell you, it was nothing like I imagined. It didnt crack up to be all that much really. I dont think you are missing out on much, which I know you probably dont understand but one day you will. Boys can bring so much drama.
Try not to worry about it too much. You should be happy with your life you have, like having good friends and a family. Focus on that and then when the time is right a nice boy will come along.
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reader, SoSowhat10 +, writes (16 March 2008):
 I agree with Korculan. Your female friends may say nice things to your face but can be dirty about you behind your back. Guys around your age go for the "easy" girls even older guys do. Sometimes guy don't date girls they have respect for or feel that won't be easy to make out with or fool around with. Plus your only 13..you have a long time before you have to really worry about dating and being with someone. Wait until your older to stress about something as little as this.
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reader, sue88 +, writes (16 March 2008):
Dont be in such a hurry to grow up, your only young, my first boyfriend wasn't untill i was 16, thats still young. enjoy this time of your life, once its gone its gone. being with someone isnt all roses it can get very complicated too.
Best of luck
sue
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reader, korculan queen +, writes (16 March 2008):
No there isn't. You are still young. You are 13 years old. Too young for a boyfriend. Boys your age will be looking at a girlfriend as someone to have sex with. You are way too young for this and besides even if you are cute, attractive and a nice person this is only skin deep and superficial qualities. The qualities you will need much later in life is honesty, compassion, confidence and high self esteem. Your looks while can be an asset is not the only asset. Also at your age who you hang around with is how you get judged by other boys and also what your girlfriends say about you behind your back to deter guys away from you.
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