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writes:To start with i have met this guy online 7 months ago. Since then we always send each other, emails and I'ms. We talk like 3 to 4 times a week.We haven't met personally yet coz he lives in another state.He told me everything about him and I am to him too.Things were okay but there are things that really bother me. I have given him my number but he never called me. Whenever i asked him about that, he tells me that he will give me a call sometime soon. I have fallen for him so much because he is everything i am looking for a guy. But at the back of my head, something tells me that there is something strange about him. Here are some things that i have noticed. First, he can never specify a date. He always say i will talk to you soon, if not soon, sooner. Second , he never called me and i never get to hear his voice.I' beginning to wonder he's a married guy but when i confronted him he said No and the reason he can't be online as always was that he's busy with his business and schooling. I need your advice. Is it possible that he is really sincere to me? or Do you think he is living a double life. I nees your advice Reply to this Question
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 From what you are telling us about this guy, he sounds like he has a woman already. The reason why maybe he has not called you, is because there is a thing called estimated phone bill and his missus may get suspicious if there is a phone number she may not recognise and will give your online Romeo the third degree.
So go out have fun and pull the plug on this loser once and for all. You may find yourself a nice guy in the flesh and not someone on a computer screen. BTW I met my fella online and we have been dating for six months.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (10 April 2008):
 blah blah blah. i love him. i've never met him but he's a bagillion miles away and has had sex with his cousin and his uncle and a pet chicken named Mr Cluckles.
blah blah blah whine whine whine
ITS THE INTERNET it was made for the distribution of porn and stupidity.
internet dating, long distance incestual relationships do not work.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Hi,
oh dear this just sounds so wrong.
Here is the easiest way to find out if he is married or attached. It is one question and guaranteed.
Ask him for his home phone number.
If he comes up with an excuse ( no matter how convincing ) then you know he is living with someone. No cheating spouse wants their girlfriend to ring up their home, it is their biggest worry. Try it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Maybe it would be reasonable to expect him to give you a call now that he has your phone. But we don't really know what is going on. However, if you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, maybe you should insist that the two of you meet in person. That should be the proof of fire.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (10 April 2008):
 To be honest.. internet relationships are usually dodgy. Sometimes they turn out okay but anyway can pretend to be sincere. Some people get into an 'internet relationship' and get to the point where things shud be 'taken further' but don't actually want to go that far. for a lot of people it is an alertnate reality to live in away from their normal lives with someone who they can get to know and who can get to know them from scratch.
A lot of guys and women even on the internet are not who they say they are. maybe he's in deeper than he is supposed to be? maybe something dodgy is going on?
I suggest though that you back off and if he calls ,he calls, if he doesn't - accept it. I don't really condone internet dating. i know it works out sometimes but it can just be so dangerous! Anything is possible to be honest. nobody can answer these questions apart from him, and who knows if he's telling the truth?
Be careful.
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reader, Wisdom +, writes (10 April 2008):
 I think you should move on, how can you love and trust someone you have never met? for all you know he is a dirty old man sitting on the other end of the computer telling you what you want to hear...... sorry sweet but find a real person to have a relationship with
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