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Is there anything I can do to stop me needing the toilet so often??

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Question - (1 December 2007) 32 Answers - (Newest, 16 December 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

hi, ive suffered with this problem for about 6 years.

I always used to be able to go about 7 hours without needing to go to the toilet but one day i couldn't stop going to the toilet for a pee nd it was like every 20-40minutes. Now then i was only 11 but since then i have always needed it a lot. About a year later i was able to hold it for an hour without needing it but not all the time and as years progressed i have been able to hold it for about 2 hours and occasionally now 3. Which doesn't bother me now because if i need the toilet in lessons we are allowed to go and also if im distracted by somethig else like just sitting their talking to people i'm fine.

I have been to the doctor about this several times and hes always said you need to hold it. Just sometimes its not like that its litterally 10minutes after i have just been and i can feel it because its sort of a weird sensation down there. No a stinging but sort of a heavyness as if it building up wnating to come out. Thing is if i'm travelling by bus it start to need it alot even if im only going 15 minutes away, its lke the minute it goes over one of those speedbumps it sets it off again and thats when its at it worst and its really uncomfortable, it does happen by car too but not as much. But when i need it this often its a fullness down there as if its there waiting to comeout whereas when i wake up in a morning and the occasional time i have held it for 6 hours its sort of a fullness around the abdomen just like people normally feel when they need to go.

I honestly can't explain the feeling its just very dfferent and not nice when i get that feeling down ther and i know i have to go. Is there anythig i could do to help this as i'm going on a trip in 4 days and will be on a bus for like 3 hours there and 3 hours back maybe more coming back and i can't stand to have this problem. It also causes alot of inconvinience for me in general life to. Is there any reasons why doing certain things or not doing certain things can cause this. Please help

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2012):

Hello, I , like many others have exactly the same problem.

I'm 16, and currently going to the loo about 6 to 7 times a day.

I know something is wrong, because I feel this horrible pressure of needing to go every two hours. Before, I could hold my bladder for about 7 to 8 hours.

However I think I know something that triggered this all of. One day at school, I stupidly decided to hold my bladder threw out the whole day, and not go till the end.

It was a bit uncomfortable, but I managed.

While walking out from art, I felt this trickle go down my legs. It was wet, i remember freaking out, my heart pounding like crazy, and running hysterically to the toilets. When I got there, I noticed that it was my drink that had spilt from my bag down my legs, but my whole body was still shaking from the scare.

Ever since then, I sometimes get that same thought of water going down my legs, and it's like my mind is playing the same scenario on me.

I get anxious, start to panic, and had to run to the toilet thinking I had wet myself.

At first I told myself to get a reality check, when ever I got the feeling i would look down and tell myself 'see, no water' but it didn't work, and got progressively worse from there on.

I became paranoid about whether there would be toilets, did i have access to one, i had to plan my journeys around my bladder and canceling them if there wasn't a toilet near by or it meant taking longer than a hour or two. It is ridiculous, my bladder is ruling my life! I feel insecure, trapped, and tired of it.

However i understand it's not my bladder that is the problem, don't bother asking others for help with this problem.

They say you must have a UTI, Kidney infection, or maybe diabetic.

No, no and no.

Like the others said, it is a psychological thing. You may not think it is, but chances are it probably is. You've got into this routine and habit of needing to go every hour or so,in your mind your thinking about needing the toilet, or being weary of your bladder problem,and you feel a heavy sensation on your bladder, like it's full. You start to panic,have to find a toilet, and this just repeats.

I know my bladder is fine, at first I thought i had a irritable bladder, however at nights I do not get woken up from this urge, only during the morning, when I'm awake and conscious of my situation. If you do get waken up at night, I would suggest asking you GP about what I mentioned. My friend had this problem, the doctor put some botox into her bladder to strength it and helped her to hold her urine for hours.It was a relief to her, and i can only hope one day I find my solution, so I can stop stressing about this.

I think this will only get worse the more we get stressed over it, maybe try a day at home. Keep our minds of the toilet, being at ease that we know we have one there when ever and are not restricted to use it. Keep your mind active on other things, tv, cooking, chatting. I know it will be hard, but see what happens.

You never know, you maybe surprised to find you only go twice or three times.

Goodluck,

Shelly

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A female reader, advenchurrr New Zealand +, writes (10 March 2011):

I used to have a problem with going to the toilet far too often. I went to a Kinesiologist to sort out my hips and back and within 5 minutes he diagnosed that my body didn't know how to process water properly. This was from a trauma I put my body through in the past. He 'reprogrammed' my body and it was able to process water again straight away and therefore would absorb it and I would urinate less.

Brilliant!

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A female reader, chikk United Kingdom +, writes (15 February 2011):

I am another one that suffers with this, apart from I had never had any problems until I was almost 22. I have been through the toughest time, literally shutting myself away from the outdoors. The funny thing is I have a strong bladder. I can sleep 8 hours and not wake once for the loo, it's when I go out places it starts for me. It's an anxiety. I get awful panic attacks that I better run to the loo in case I wet myself.....which I never have. The past three months I have pushed my self to do things, but it's so hard to try and not think about it.

Sometimes I feel that there is not always a medical problem for someone like me. It may be down to stress and anxiety, which isn't curable quickly if ever.

It's sad, I used to take a walk, go for long drives, etc, and now it's a race to get where I am going and get back. For me I just hope that it wears away, if you go to the doctors and explain your personal situation they can do urine samples, put you on a course of bladder re-training tablets, or send you for a scan if all these don't have the answer then I will expect its stress/anxiety/nerves. But where this is such a strong problem of the mind for some it will take a lot of time to get through it and back to normal as anti depressants are not always the answer and don't always get rid of the problem, they can just mask it as I have learnt.

Good luck to all suffering with this xx

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A female reader, Abii96 United Kingdom +, writes (21 November 2010):

Im so happy to have found other people with the same problem i used to have this when i was about 8 or 9 but at the same time i had a hude fobia of dying and i had to go conciling about it. The doctors told me i was needing the toilet all the time beacause i was always scared and after i got over my fear i stopped needing the toilet for almost 5 years and only went bout 2-3 times a day untill i was diagnosed with cystitis a bladder infection so i took the medication and it was all cleared up after a week so. But about 2 weeks after i found my self going to the toilet every hour again and its so embracing

im 14 and at school i have 2 go before lesson, break, lunch, after school and sometimes during lesson depending on how bad it is. But i dread going on school trips i resently turned down and amazing trip to london because there was no toilet on the coach. And i really don't no what to do as i don't even have a fobia of dying anymore i have no idea what it is either, wish someone would help me.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010):

Hi, this used to happen to me a lot when i was about 12 i am now 15 and it only happens every so often.I had appendicitis and i found that it only started happening after that, it sought of went away when i was 13 but came back again the next year. i have been to doctors and had blood tests and urine sample but haven't gone so far as to have an ultrasound. when it came back i think the cause may have been anxiety, because when i was distracted by games or talking with friends, but as soon as i thought about needing to go to the toilet it would come back straight away. my best answer is try not to think about going to the toilet, because it helped me. i don't know if it will work for everyone else but it did for me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010):

i have the exact same problem as everyone here. it probably started when i was 7 and im 12 now so i have been living with it for 5 years. it isnt easy, i dont go on trips and sometimes i dont go to peoples partys or houses. people at school tell me i need it all the time and i know i do but people laugh about it. i go to the toilet about every half an hour to an hour and its really imbarasing. its worse when i go on trips. i stay up awake some nights and just cry because i cant deal with it anymore. i have tried medication and i even had an altrasound to check if anything was wrong with my bladder, but they said that its all fine down there. ive tried counting to 10 and everything, but it just isnt working for me. also when i go it doesnt seem like a lot comes out. everyone also says im in the toilet a long time. i have asked my mum for therapy but she said that theres no need. my mum and dad dont really understand whats going on.i feel like i cant talk to anyone and i feel like im the only one and was shoked when i saw all of you on here. im sooooooooo glad im not the only one. does anyone have a solution to this because you would litraly save my whole life!!!!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010):

I was surprised to see other people had this problem. I have to go toilet about every hour. I went to the doctor and got blood test and urine test done and I even got an ultrasound to see if there was anything in my bladder that was making me need to so often. I had to go to a physchologist and it started to get better but now it has gone completely down hill.

My parents broke up nearly 3 years ago now and I struggled with everything. I do not like going to my Dads house either so everybody thought it was stress but Im not really sure now.

Im really worried and I really want it to get better. Does anybody no any other things it could be? Thanks

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010):

i am so glad, i have found people like me. i agree with everyone, and i have a paris trip coming up and i am not going to go because of this. its horrible, and its ruling my life.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010):

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=779892

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010):

hi im 14 and i have exactly the same problem, it started when i was 12 and no one knows what it is. its a horible feeling as you said and my only thought is that i could be a urine infection or something like that.

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A female reader, okluce United Kingdom +, writes (17 March 2010):

Hey there i have the same problem, i have since i was 11, im 17 now so ive had it for years, i have tried the doctors tests cranberry juice not drinking tea or coffee nother worked, but a couple of years ago i tried hypnotherapy, she asked me what my worse situations were to be in needing the loo and like counter acted them, it didnt completely solve the problem but i have learned to so self hypnotherapy it helps me to control the urge to go, i used to go every half hour i now can last 2 - 3 hours about normal, its doesnt stop the worry about long journeys but you have to say to your self you know you can go if you have to go, you know where the next toilet is and that you can hold it, i also found out planning helps with trips, talk to your teacher about it in confidence and just ask if you are able to havea stop if possible i did and she was understanding. please dont let it rule your life i did and it was auful i nearly didnt go on a one in a life time trip to india because of it, but i did go and i was able to last all day or maybe go 3 times a day, so if you have t ried everything else, try hypnotism its a good experience :) hope this helps sweetie :) x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009):

Hi there, i am so glad that you asked this question as i have the exact same problem and do not have a clue what to do about it. unfortunatly i dont have the answer but would be very greatful if someone could give me some suggestions?

Im not too sure how long i have had this now, i sort of just noticed it one day, but it is slowly starting to control my life. i am 17 and constantly worrying about needing the toilet, and sometimes i can go for long periods of time without needing to go, if i know there is a toilet near by. but if i am on a car journey or in a situation where there is not a toilet near by i constantly think about it and then need to go! its awful and i really want to just get back to normal!

Good luck to everyone i hope you get it sorted x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009):

I have exactly the same, I'm pretty certain it's stress related, I went on holiday and I was fine and soon as I got back home it came back.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009):

My problem is much like everyones here but different.

For me I have begun checking if i need to go before but that hasnt worked so far. I usually get the feeling when I sit down to do stuff on my laptop or I am playing video games. I have been able to hold it to the point of soiling myself.

It maybe caused in part because of stress, your diet and for those who's problem isn't urinating the bowel walls may (dont quote me) not be as strong perhaps. My own theory.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009):

me too have the same problem. But its not urinating. Its the other thing. Whenever i am home, i just go once a day to toilet. But when i am on a journey, dont know why I always feel the need of it. This feeling has stopped me from going on trips with friends and my college mates.

Ofcourse its psychological. I have made some things in mind. First of all, always think that there are gas stations usually 20-30 mints so you can go and use them. This thing reliefs me alot.

I observed that this only happens because of pressure of people around you. And the feeling that "What other would think about me when i go and use toilet".

I am still finding ways to overcome this psychological problem. Help me find. Share your thoughts. How can we be care free of this feelings. what ways ?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009):

Hey guys! You can't imagine how lucky I felt when I found out that there where others with this problem.

I can confidently tell you that it is mental. I had a very embarrassing accident when I was in high school and that is when it started. I sat in class and felt like this sensation like I needed going to the toilet real bad. But it wasn't urinating. #2. I have always been very delicate about those things and I used to gave extremely low to no self-concience. That's why I decided to leave class and go home instead of using the public toilet at school. I did not make it, of course.

It came out in my pants and I was so near home. I cannot actually recall the feeling at that moment but it must have been extreme embarrassment and shock.

What I do remember is that the next day I started feeling the same dreadful sensation during the first class. It started immediately after I entered. I left the class. I took a leave from school, saw dozens of therapists, all to no luck. I managed to finish the high school and even enter a college but it affected my life ever since. I get panic attack whenever I in a movie theater, on a bus, in a class, with girls, taking an exam, driving a car, you name it... :(

The bottom line is it's so intimidating when you can't control yourself like that :(

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009):

Oh thank god i thought i was the only one! i've only just started getting this problem and i'm exactly the same as you! when i first got it i thought it was kindey faulier of somein and i got quite upset, i didn't tell my family i was too embarrased but i went to the doctor and he gave me some pills to take away the urge to go i tried them and it worked! a few days after i started taking them i went back to tell him they'd worked, he said they were only mints! turns out it was all in my mind, just dont think about!

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A female reader, Lynzii..x United Kingdom +, writes (29 June 2009):

Hey, I also have this problem and I'm going to doctors this aft. I'm constantly going to the toilet at school and people are starting to notice and ask why, but the thing is, I don't even know why myself. I've always needed the toilet more than the average person, but for the past few months its been like every half hour, sometimes I need it straight after I've just been. Its really embarrassing and I always worry about not being able to hold it in. I'm starting to avoid things like school trips because I don't think I can last the 1-2 hour journey, its starting to rule my life!! Sometimes I think its just in my head, because when I'm at home and know theres a toilet nearby, I hardly go!! Its SO frustrating!! Any advice? x

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A female reader, Lynzii..x United Kingdom +, writes (29 June 2009):

Hey, I also have this problem and I'm going to doctors this aft. I'm constantly going to the toilet at school and people are starting to notice and ask why, but the thing is, I don't even know why myself. I've always needed the toilet more than the average person, but for the past few months its been like every half hour, sometimes I need it straight after I've just been. Its really embarrassing and I always worry about not being able to hold it in. I'm starting to avoid things like school trips because I don't think I can last the 1-2 hour journey, its starting to rule my life!! Sometimes I think its just in my head, because when I'm at home and know theres a toilet nearby, I hardly go!! Its SO frustrating!! Any advice? x

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A male reader, donmed United States +, writes (25 January 2009):

If you don't have a bladder infection or drink too many liquids (more than 5 or 6 glasses a day), then you gradually need to increase the size of your bladder by doing Kegel exercises and bladder training as another person has indicated. You should be able to wait about 4 hours between urinations. Since you have already waited about 7 hours, that is remarkable. Give up all caffeine drinks, coffee, tea, colas, and especially Mountain Dew.

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A male reader, fulup8 United States +, writes (24 November 2008):

You may have a bladder infection. Go to your doctor or to an emergency room, tell the physician your problem. Have him take a urine sample and test it for bacteria. If you have an infection, he will give you an appropriate antibiotic. It is possible that you have had an infection for a long while.

The doctor may also refer you to a urologist who will check out your bladder and its capacity.

You used to hold your bladder for 7 hours. That is quite a lot. As you gradually started emptying your bladder more often, you began to need to do that. If there is nothing wrong with your bladder, you can do two things.

1. Strengthen your bladder muscles using Kegel exercises. When you pee, cut off the flow for a few seconds. The muscles that allow you to do that can be exercised. When you are not peeing,tighten them for 5 seconds, then relax for 10 seconds. Do this 5 times, then more often. Do the exercises three times a dayor as often as you can.

2. Begin bladder training. When you feel the need to pee, wait another 15 minutes. Do that for 1 week everytime your need to pee. Then the next week, try to wait for 30 minutes. Do that for another week or two. Then the third week, wait for 30 minutes. And so on very gradually more an more time, until you can't wait anymore. After many months you may find you can wait for 3 or even 4 hours.

Eventually you won't feel you need to pee any more than every three hours, if that is possible for you. Your bladder will tell you when need to go.

Of course this all depends on a normal intake of water, 4 or 5 glasses, 8 ounces at a time, every day. Be sure that you do not excessively take in caffeine beverages, like coffee, tea, or cola drinks. They will increase your need to pee. One or two cups of coffee per day, for example, is enough. A good substitute in your case is cranberry or orange juice. They help with bladder irritation or infections. If you are hydrated well enough, your urine will be a very light yellow or completely clear. In the morning it is a deep yellow or orange color, from impurities expelled by the kidneys during the night as you sleep.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008):

It is humiliating. When I went on my first day long date with the girlfriend in college, who eventually became my wife, I held my pee for hours to the point of pain hoping that she would excuse herself and go to the bathroom. But she never did. Finally when we stopped to go to dinner, after being on our date for about 8 hours, I couldn't wait anymore and excused myself to go to the men's room. I had held my pee so long that it took about 10 minutes before a drop would come out. Finally, after another 10 minutes I began to dribble. That gave me some relief but I still had a half full bladder. We ate dinner. We went to a movie. I took her back to her dorm. It was 12 hours since we went out. She had not peed all that time. After about six months I got up my nerve and asked her why she never had to go to the bathroom. She said she was like her mother who used to go about 2 hours after she got up. That was it until the next morning. Her bladder held about a quart and a half. She now goes twice a day, morning and 2 hours before bedtime.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008):

i no how you all feel iv been the docters loads i get tablets lasts a few months and then is always back its just a pain try cranberry juice sometimes that works for me and drink water fizzy drinks are often a problem hope i have helped

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008):

Why not try wearing a Tena (incontinence)pad (from all chemists) just to make you feel more secure? They are not much bigger than ordinary pads you wear for a period but are absorbent enough to mop up any potential accidents and will stop you worrying. Don't panic about buying them, chemists sell thousands of them and would almost certainly assume you were buying them for your mum anyway.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008):

hey, im 19 and have just started having this problem. I get really worried about just leaving the house for a journey that takes 10 minutes. I find myself wearing dark jeans just in case I have an accident, which has never happened, but I worry that it will. I constantly think about it and cant get it out of my head. As soon as I sit down in a car I feel as though I need to go, I try to tell myself that I don't need it, but then I think 'well what if I actually do need it this time' and then I panic that I will wet myself. whenever we go on trips, I have to drive so i'm in control of when we stop. I worry that other people notice how many times I go to the toilet and if they think im weird. Its starting to control my life!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008):

i have this all the time and its all in my head and its hard for me because my brother goes motor crossing and we go to london and places really far away and it takes like 6 hours to get there and i need it when i have just set of my dad gets mad for keeping on stopping for me and when i went to this place about 2 hours away with my friends i had to ask to pull into the services to go but it did make me feel a bit better knowing nearlly half the bus needed as well as me i am 10 and i cant get the thought out of my head and iam going futher than 6 hours next weekend and i want to no how to get this thought out of my head i need it about every half an hour bad or what so i need help can anyone give me any advice

xxxxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008):

Hi , im sorry i dont have the answer! but I have the exsact same problem as i always need to go in lesson and in between but at home not doing anything , and when i know there's a toilet near im fine and can hold it for ages! i am worrying because i have my exams coming up!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008):

I totally understand where your coming from,I'm exactly the same!I thought i was strange but I guess I'm not the only one.I'm a 14 yr old female by the way.I think it is all in my head and the doctor said this to,to be honest that wasn't much help as I can't understand how to get this out of my head.I to get that horrible heavy sensationand I think thats what makes me feel I need it when I probobly dont. I also tend to start panicking or my hands start to sweat and ill get fidgety but im guessing thats the whole anxiety bit.I need some advice on how to overcome this to,it has stopped me from going on school trips and at one time I wouldnt even go on a 40 minute drive.I'm getting a little better and try to force myself not to think of it. But I have a school trip next month and probobly won't go because of this. My friends understand and I have a toilet pass for school, but I dont want people to think of me as the girl with the bladder of a 3 year old. I think I may just have to live with it,but if anyone cud give me some tips or a magical cure I would be eternaly greatful.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008):

I know how you all feel I dont think that this type of problem is always medical, its probably worrying about it that makes it worse. Its also the embarasing side of it u feel stupid and embarased when others seem to never go to the toilet and you always do but just remember chill out dont drink to much if your going on a journey and that there are millions of peple just like you good luck xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008):

ok i dont have it as bad as you but i need to go about every two hours and it serisouly annoying, my freind is like a camel she can go the entire school day and longer (a lot longer) but me, i have to go at break and at lunch and after school and sometimes in lesson and i cant go on any shool trips because the bus ride takes about 3 hours it started when i was about seven and i needed the toliet on a school trip and the group i was in had to go back early then i over heard them say about a girl who had to pee in a bucket maybe its anxiety but i'v been searching for an answer every where if anyone has any answers plaease tell me, just to let you know im a kid so i cant go to the doctor and my mum doesnt really help please you get so tierd of it after a while and people are begining to relize. help!!!!!!!!!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007):

Hey, i have this problem too. Its espesially bad when i have exams. Im like you. if i think about it i need it every hour. If i dont i can go foreever normally like anyone else. I am yet to sort this out but i just thought id let you know i have this too and im male. I doubt its an infection as ive had it a long time. seemed to satrt wen i was as young as 7 in france. (now 15) Its just when i worry and think about it. All i can say is make sure you are very, very dry down there each time you go. It seems to stop that feeling you get. I understand what you mean. But im still yet t osort it. All you problems like speed bumps ect i get. i believe this is a mental thing which you can overcome. As mine seems to be brought on when im contious of it. I think it causes me to do stuff weith my muscles which sort of brings it on if you know what i mean. Ive read cranberry juice can sort urinary infections. So maybe try that as a slight answer. But yer id really like to find more out about this. Too often ihave to go in exams and people may get to know me as the guy who always goes in exams heheh.

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A female reader, rubina United Kingdom +, writes (2 December 2007):

rubina agony auntfirst of all have you had youre kidney function checked? bloods such as urea and electrolytes can be tested at youre GP surgery. if you go on long journeys are you drinking too much and are holding it in as this can cause bloating also if you drink a lot of caffiene this acts as a diuretic and can make u wee more often. failing this you could keep getting urine infections caused by a number of things take a urine sample to GP good luck rubina x

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