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writes: The other night i was talking to my boyfriend about our sex life (virgin, but im talking about fingering and oral ect) and things we like that we do (we're very open) when he casually pointed out that i take quite abit longer than most women to climax. I thought it could be cause im not relaxed enough, didn't work. thought it might be that i need to think of sex fantasies in my head or something didn't workshould i be worried ladies?is there anything i can do to speed it up?
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (14 January 2007):
I am curious, what makes you think you need to climax more quickly? Is it somehow better to climax faster rather than slower? I don't think so. I am also very impressed to hear that your boyfriend knows how quickly most women take to climax, it must have taken him years to test them all!!
As long as you enjoy youself when you have sex, and are able to climax, that is the main thing. Reaching your climax is not a race, there is no time limit, and it takes as long as it takes. Sometimes it will be longer, sometimes shorter. The important thing is that you enjoy the journey. Tell your boyfrined that it takes as long as it takes, and that if he was more concerned with enjoying the journey than reaching the end, he wouldn't worry about it either. You definitely shouldn't worry about it, as long as you are getting there, and tell your boyfriend if he learns to enjoy the journey, and look after you and be concerned about your needs in the same way that you look after him, that is what will make him a great lover and partner.
Also, please remember that you (and probably him) are both young and should take care of yourselves and abide by any responsibilities you have. If unsure, you can educate yourself online or by speaking to someone you trust.
Good luck.
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reader, sweetiegirl  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 commuacation is a hugh key to sexually forplay, tell your b/f what you like be it "slower or faster or move to the left" you know your body better then anyone so only you know what pleases you. If your into try masterbating yourself showing your b/f what you like done to you maybe get him involved abit with how you want it done like move his fingers where you want them doing it along with him.
they are alot of websites you can check out that gives you techniques, so if you need me to clear anything up just contact me and i'll try and help.
hope that helps
sweetie
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