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writes:Hay this is a bit of a weird one, I've split from my exboyfriend of 5 years, about 4 years ago and not spoken to him since as it was a bad break up. I'm now happly married with some one else and all settled down trying for a baby, but recently I've been seeing my ex in pubs and I've found out he lives near me now so I see him on the street, it's really annoying because even tho I havnt spoken to him since we have split up I still have the aching heart when I see him and all the feelings come flooding back even tho I know I will NEVER go back with him and I'm very happy with my husband and love him so much. but is there any way of stopping my feelings for my ex it's getting to the point I can't even go to my favourite pubs any more as I'm worried my ex will be there. I can't tell my husband how I'm feeling he will never understand and all my friends and family hate my ex because of the way he treated me, but I just can't get rid of the old feeling. any advice or any one in a similar situation help would be ace Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2015): That is irritating.Your "aching" heart? Whatever do you mean?If you do NOT want to get back with him, then why would your husband be upset if you share this with him/ask for emotional support?I think it's a combination of things: when trying for a baby,you're emotional,hormonal,hopeful,all at once.It kinda messes with your head a bit.My guess is-because of the bad break up you did NOT get proper CLOSURE from HIM. You may have to deal with the fact that you'll never get a proper closure from him and try and look for it elsewhere.Once you find it,I think you wouldn't care one bit where he is and what he is doing-he'll be irrelevant to you (as he should be now,honestly, that's the only thing your husband can get irritated about.)But,yeah,try and make him as irrelevant as possible. Overcome your fears, go wherever you want to go as often as you feel like and DON'T show emotion.After a while,you should stop caring+ I bet he will be more ticked off as well, which is just an added bonus.
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