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*mitri
writes:Well,I just have a colleague which is a girl and she likes me.I used to talk to her after getting out from work on the way home.After some weeks I had some thoughts flying through my mind (not about her).I started to stop talking to her.Now we used to talk just for...well 30 seconds in two or 3 days.1 or 2 weeks ago I hear her with 2 of her friends talking.I was staying at a table with 1 comrade and I suddenly hear that she likes me,and that I don't look at her anymore.She started to look at me constantly.Even when we talked only 30 seconds she looked like she's in heaven.Well,she blocked me on Facebook (I never talked to her on Facebook,I know her just since 3 months).After I talked with one of her friends about cats,well next day she unblock me.She kept me blocked only 5 days.Well,I had some problems and I didn't pay attention to her in the last weeks.I feel like I hurt her (I didn't wanted to)and is there any way I can repair this?
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reader, Dmitri +, writes (1 January 2017):
Dmitri is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2016): I disagree, leave her friends out of it. It's none of their business. They're competing for attention; when the attraction is between the two of you. They are co-workers, and all you owe them is professional courtesy. You're two adults, not a couple of high school students. Maintain your privacy and keep your co-workers out of your personal-life.
I don't advocate dating between co-workers; mainly because it starts gossip and office-drama. If you can keep your personal affairs separate from where you work, you and she will get along just fine.
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reader, Dmitri +, writes (29 December 2016):
Dmitri is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am already friend with them.But they ruin my plan exactly when I want to say her.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (29 December 2016):
Well, chat to her friends too and make friends with them too. It will make you seem like a much more attractive and personable guy if you show that you can get on well with all manner of different people
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reader, Dmitri +, writes (29 December 2016):
Dmitri is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually I heard her saying ,not her friends.
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reader, Dmitri +, writes (29 December 2016):
Dmitri is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe problem is whenever I want to say her those friends are ruining the whole plan.Today we were walking and suddenly....A friend had to appear ...GREAT.
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reader, Dmitri +, writes (29 December 2016):
Dmitri is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo I wasn't listening. hearing ??Sometimes this can be annoying ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2016): Aw, you're such a sweet guy! I think she was embarrassed that you overheard them talking about you. I hope you weren't eavesdropping. That would be impolite, and nosy.
I think all is well, and it might be time to ask her out. I don't think it is appropriate to make any comments or suggestions of this nature at work. Next time, when you happen to see her after work; and away from the other ladies. Be respectful, polite, and try not to overwhelm her. She seems shy, but you know she likes you.
Don't make any mention of what you heard. You shouldn't have been listening. Just turn this around with your actions. Asking her out might be nice. Nothing too fancy or intimate. A coffee date, or a movie. Try talking to her a little longer than 30 seconds; unless you meant 30 minutes (half an hour.)
Good luck!
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reader, Garm  +, writes (29 December 2016):
I don't follow. Here's what I gathered: there's a girl you used to talk to briefly on your way home. Then you heard her friends say that she likes you but you don't look at her anymore. Then she started looking at you, which you took as a sign. Then she blocked you on FB for talking to her friends. Then she unblocked you.If this is an accurate synopsis, here's me response: you're reading too far into this. Ask her if she wants to makes plans to do something after work some day. If she does, great. If she does not, time will either fix it or it won't.
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