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writes:Need as many answers as possible!Hi aunts i wonder if you could please help me.Sorry its so long.There is this guy that i REALLY REALLY like. ive known him for years. i used to be good friends with his sister in school(we still speak). im 18 and hes 19.The problem is though, when me and my friends were at the pub for a quiet drink one night, i pulled him aside (so we were on our own) and asked him, what he thought of me and he said he thought i was "a very nice looking girl". We have kissed loads of times and get on amazingly well. but he says he also likes another girl who i dont know. He flirts with me and i flirt back so surley if he didnt like me he would say something about the "obvious" flirting!?!Also we went back to my friends last night for a party and he stayed the night, with me!Nothing sexual happend we just sat having a drink for quite a while then i fell asleep on the couch (on my own, as he was upstairs with my friends boyfriend) but i woke up later on to find i had a duvet over me and i looked round and he was cuddling up to me on the couch aswell. he looked so peacefull and i couldnt help but just sit and look at him and run my fingers through his hair! When i did that he gave a little smile. Then he texted me earlier on today, after we all went back home, that he enjoyed spending time with me and that he had a really good night.I also jumped at my chance and said to him,"what would you say if i asked you out?" His reply was,"I'm not sure". What do you think this means?????Do you think that we have something between us?Is there any hope of us getting together as a couple?Should i actually ask him out in the hope he says yes and be crushed if he says no?Do you think he would say yes if i asked him out?Please help aunts.X
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): I believe you are asking the wrong question....Instead of asking..."Do you think we have something between us" how bout asking the question..."Do I want to be with a guy who is 'Not Sure' about me." If his answer is "yes" then its yes, if its "no" then its no, and if its "I'm not sure" or "I don't know" or "Its not the right time" then its "NO" clean and simple. And its really important that you understand these messages from other people and from yourself. I'm not saying that he won't change his mind, changing ones mind is a very easy thing to do, but for the time being...his "I'm not sure" is a "No".
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reader, hennessy  +, writes (6 November 2007):
 Based on the information you've given, it appears that he probably likes the attention he's getting from you, but isn't really interested in dating you. Otherwise he probably would have asked you out by now, or would have jumped at the opening you gave him. Some guys don't want to turn down an interested girl for fear of hurting her feelings, but don't realize that stringing somebody along is even worse. My suggestion is to turn your attention to some other, available boys and do some flirting!
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