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Is there a way for us to successfully be together again?

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Question - (22 June 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 6 July 2009)
A female Canada age 36-40, *owderedheart writes:

I love my ex, but we haven't seen each other in a year, we sometimes keep in contact, and most recently he has contacted me to reminisce about old times. He said if we were ever in the same city we should meet up. Recently my friend saw him in my hometown, and the next day, he messaged me, to say hello and said he was in a city halfway across the country. Finally after 2 weeks, I messaged him and asked him where he was. It took him two weeks to say he was in my hometown, but not staying, that of course his emotions are mixed, but he is trying to refind what he once saw in that place.

Now, me, being hurt that I was lied to, gave him a bit of attitude, and in his response, he gave me a lot of attitude. I am just so hurt. Sometimes I think he still cares, I haven't moved on at all, I just want to know why he does the things he does. There is so much hurt between us, but i really miss him, is there a way to get over the hurt, is there a way for us to be together again?

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A female reader, powderedheart Canada +, writes (6 July 2009):

powderedheart is verified as being by the original poster of the question

its been a year now since i've seen him!!! you'd think that was enough time! I've sent him nice emails since, and I haven't heard anything back. I see him log on and I have deleted him because I cant bare to know he is online and we are not speaking... it's why I moved cities, because I coudln't bear to be in the same city and not speaking.... I hate the way things are. I'm afraid that it took him a lot to write me that email about his mix emotions and i screwed up by giving him attitude.... he is not often an understanding person...

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A female reader, Starlights United Kingdom +, writes (23 June 2009):

Starlights agony auntof course you miss him, you still love him, this is very normal!

im unsure if you two will get back together because as you say there's been hurt between you both, plus he seems to have mixed emotions.

have you asked him his true feelings for you? maybe you should msg him directly, or if possible arrange a meeting face to face and ask if there is a possibility to rekindle the love?

if he says no least you know you was brave to make that first step to him, and if he says no it will be closure for you else you will always be left wondering what could have been.

to get over hurt, the ideal remedy is TIME.

plenty of time, it may take a few months, maybe years to get over the pain of love.

be easy on yourself and try and find your answer from him.

good luck!

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