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writes:hi aunts. please can you help me.ive started to fall for this guy who ive met on the internet. he is a fairly short train journey away from me.we have been speaking for quite some time and hes even phoned me to see how i am.the thing is i dont really know where i stand with him.we are planning on meeting but im not sure i want to meet him if im going to get hurt.we have done cam2cam video calls so we both know what each other looks like.(he is VERY good looking)we have been flirting A LOT.but im not sure how he feels towards me.i dont want to tell him how i feel in case he thinks im being a bit to posessive or in case i scare him away.he said he hates being single and would love to be with someone like me.i feel the same but im not sure if this was him just plainly flirting or being serious im so confused. i know i shouldnt get attached so easily but after being on my own for almost 2 years its hard not to,please helpxxxx
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reader, Bean317  +, writes (15 March 2008):
I would be careful. I used to talk to guys on the internet and I actually found my first love there. We talked for a VERY long time before we met. He lived near me and we both brought a friend the first time we met. You really have to be careful and talk more than just on the internet. There are a lot of sleezy guys out there, I lucked out. However my boyfriend was living with his aunt and had to move back to his home town about six months later, four hours away. So for the past two years our relationship has been long distance. He just ended the relationship because the distance is too hard. It's been hell, he's definitely worth it, but knowing what i know now, I would not encourage you to seek out a long distance relationship, especially in an unsafe situation like this. We still have hope that someday we will bridge the gap and try again, but this is the worst pain ever. I would suggest that you keep your relationship purely friendly internet chat. Find someone closer to you that you can get to know in a conventional way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): Well I've been in the same situation as you and its really easy to fall for someone. But what you must be aware of is a lot of guys on the net are married or in a relationship and looking for a no strings attached arrangement. My advice, don't rush into anything and take things slowly. Just be careful he's not going to use you for sex, this happened to me..he told me he wanted a relationship, wined and dined me, then as soon as we slept together he did a disappearing act. He is still trawling the net months later. You cannot fall in love on a webcam, you can only tell if there is any chemistry when you meet up in person. If he wants to meet you, then make sure he comes to see you not the other way around and please don't sleep with him quickly, that is the only way you will find out if he is genuine or not.
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