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Is there a better way of approaching than asking if they want a drink?

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Question - (26 November 2007) 6 Answers - (Newest, 26 November 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

when i approach agirl in a club or pub i usally ask if they want a drink , it hardly works and cost money . is there an more succsessfull way because im single and i dont want to be

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007):

If I want to speak to someone I dont know I usually make a comment on how slow the bar service is or how warm it is in the pub/club.

If that doesnt work just try telling a woman that she looks nice, and you think that what shes wearing really suits her. then see where hat takes you.

These lines dont always work, even the best chat up lines dont always work it depends on how confidently you come across. and it also depends on whether the person is attracted to you. Just try my recommendations and let us know how you get on.

good luck.

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A female reader, sexi South Africa +, writes (26 November 2007):

sexi agony auntHi

You can try walking up to them and saying, can i join you. Can i chat to you then see where that takes you. I hope it works for you.

Regards

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (26 November 2007):

TELLULAH agony auntHi

Thats because if you buy a girl a drink that you dont know, they think you are trying to buy them. If you strike up a conversation and are getting on well, then you can offer a drink. There are no rules as to what will work on chatting up the oposite sex. What works on one, wont on another. The best thing is to be relaxed and a bit confident (not overly though). Be smiley and happy, all girls love that.

XXX

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007):

Sure, you might try asking if they like the band, if there is one, or if they would like to hear the same song on the juke that you would like to hear, or which would they like to hear....(?) Then, make a comment about the band that plays the song. Take it from there. The possibilities for striking up conversations with gals are unlimited. You don't have to ask them if they want another drink.

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A female reader, FairyArchie India +, writes (26 November 2007):

Hey,

This is a very common problem....No never approach a girl like that...girls think that u r treating them as an easily approachable girl..or a call girl...do one think go there,just hit her with shoulder,,...say sorry..than compliment her on something her dreass,etc.than quitely make the waitor to bring her a drink n say this is for you from me...than slowly increase ur friendship..than u r done...continue it for about 10 days..than the girl is definately urz

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A female reader, Dhar United States +, writes (26 November 2007):

Dhar agony auntWhich girls are you approaching? Are they girls that have expressed some interest? See if any of the girls in the pub/club make eye contact. Or, if they see you making eye contact - linger a bit or smile shyly and look away.

Are these bars/pubs too noisy for chit chat? If so then I don't have a suggestion. If you can talk why don't you go up and ask her name? Ask if she's having a good time? Ask her if she likes your shoes... be nice, friendly, make her laugh and respect her personal space and she'll respond. Don't seem needy or desperate. Compliment her - make it clear that you're interested but that it's okay if she's not cause you are chill and relaxed.

At the end of the night ask for her number and call her the next day or the day after. Do not try and give her your number - you need to ask and set up the date.

Good luck!

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