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*ullmetal
writes:Hello dearcupids,2 years back, i started chatting with a high school crush in facebook. She was 2 years junior to me. I thought she already has a bf, so i didn't flirt with her. I had normal friendly conversation. She replied to my every message, and also actively participated in the conversation. She addresses me as bro(short for brother) since they used to call us seniors as brother. May be she was responding me out of respect as a senior. For few months we stopped chatting. Few days back, i saw her online and i messaged her asking how she had been. Then we started chatting again. Today, during conversation, i just joked saying she used to look like a tomboy. She told me now she is changed, but the one who changed her from being a tomboy to a girl has gone. During the conversation, she told me she has never told this anyone. She told me how the guy is not giving her chance to talk to him. She asked me from a guy's point of view, how should she approach him so that he would listen to her, i told her that people dumped someone not because they don't know how much the other dumpee loves them, but because they don't love the person anymore. So once someone dumped a person, he will not listen to that person again. Then she told me the guy is known to me too, and he is not the flirtatious and naughty type guy. Then i told her to focus on her career ,and leave the rest to time. If they were meant to be together, time will bring them together again,and wish her all the best. She told me my words were helpful to her, and changed the topic and we were chatting again like before. I know the guy. He was her classmate, and junior to me.Why would she told me about her getting dumped by her bf?Was she trying to tell me she is available or just wanted to be consoled? Dear experieced dearcupids, please give me your valuale opinions. Should i stay as a platonic friend or is it right to hope for something more? Thank you and love you all.
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reader, fullmetal +, writes (28 July 2015):
fullmetal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u dear wiseowl for your words. Your words help me to gain confidence. I am gona try my luck asking her out. Thank u again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2015): If you fancy her, what prevents you from asking her out for a date? If she isn't romantically-connected to anyone, and she's single and available; what's holding you back?
If you make no moves, she sees you as her "big brother." You hide safely in the "friend-zone" to avoid rejection.
Man-up and ask her out. We don't have privy to your conversations with her, and we don't know her. It's up to you to figure things out for yourself. After two years, and you can't figure it out; what can we tell you?
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