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Is my ex better off without me?

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Question - (8 May 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 8 May 2009)
A male United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Me and my ex have been apart for over 2 months and Im not over her at all, and she seems to be doing okay. Last time we spoke it was her telling me to leave her alone, ONLY cause I told her I couldnt be her friend, it was too hard for me after everything we've been through. so basically she seemed mad that I couldnt be her friend. I dont want her to go through life thinking I dont care. Is she better off without me? or should I make an effort to contact her? (even though the last thing she said was to leave her alone.)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009):

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these are all great responses, as for the 1st one, the thing is, I dont wanna forget her, she was my world, we were eachothers first...its so hard to let go. all i want is her back, I dont want her to even think for a second Im forgetting about her...but if shes getting over me, thats it...

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A female reader, lolagiraffe Canada +, writes (8 May 2009):

These things often take months or years to finally rectify. In my opinion, don't contact her anytime soon. Or if you do, definitely keep it short and suggest that you'd like to become friends again, but you wanted some time to heal (depending on who broke up with who.)

If I may ask, why would you like to become friends with her? How long had you been together before you broke up? Some people would much rather just move on and forget about the past. Others will contact you years later, right out of the blue.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009):

I think you should contact her one more time, make it short and simple just to let her know that you do care about her, and that with her permission, you would like to be friends with her once you can deal with it (you are over her). tell her that if you are friends with her now, you will end up making her feel uncomfortable by having lingering feelings.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009):

Hmm I think that she does sound hurt you said that to be honest I would be too however i think you should maybe send her one last email or text explaining that you only didnt want to be friends as it was hard for you as you had just broken up.

However dont contact her after that. She may have just needed time to get over you. if she doesnt contact you back then you at least know youve done your best and that youve made her feel better that she knows your feelings behind the not being friends thing.

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