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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone. I am a 17 year old female who is bisexual. Around the beginning of September my friend had started taking this girl to school with us in the morning. I had thought nothing of it until her and I actually began talking. We have gotten closer these past three weeks. We hang out everyday, we're very open with each other. Over fall break we were with each other for five days, not apart once. Anyway, when we had first met I jokingly sent her a text saying, "Want to make out?". By surprise, her reply was "Yes." I asked again maybe two more times. At first, I thought she was just joking, and in a way I was. She ended up telling me she was being serious the whole time. We decided to be 'Friends with Benefits' for about a week, then she felt awkward about it because she didn't know me that well. I asked her if she likes me and she said "In a way I do, but in a way I don't know." We stopped being Friends with Benefits, but every-once in a while we will still kiss, such as today I said, "Can I kiss you?" and she said "Yes". I hugged her before I left her house today, kissed her, hugged her once more, then pulled her face towards mine and kissed her one last time. I am afraid to ask if she has any feelings for me, so I would like to know what you guys think. Do you think she may actually like me? Is she afraid to be into girls?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (3 November 2012):
 Well it sounds like she likes you but the best way to know for 100% would be to ask her.
But if i was you, before you ask her how she feels i would decided exactly what i want. Do you want her to be your girlfriend and if so are you ready for all the things that come along with that?
Do you just want to be friends with benefits like you were before? if so are you ready for the fall out when one of you develops more feelings or wants to stop and then it is hard to be friends after.
If she does like you she may find it hard to admit that in public if she is not happy with her sexuality.
But the best way to deal with this is to talk to her direct tell her how you feel and ask her what she would like to happen.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): You should just ask her if she likes you in that way but be prepared for that not being the case, many girls your age go through a phase of thinking they're bisexual. I don't know what it is but teenage girls seem to think it's cool or something and lots say they are but only ever just kiss another girl and never actually get properly romantically involved. For her and perhaps you this could just be a phase.
Look, if you really like this girl then you can't beat around the bush waiting and hoping, being used for the odd kiss here and there while she experiments with you. That's not fair on you. If you like her tell you do and ask her if she feels the same, if she doesn't then that's that. Don't be afraid that she may say she's not OP, there is nothing worse than having a crush on a person who feeds that crush but never actually goes any further. Much better to know where you stand as how you feel right now is probably torture, not knowing is far worse than rejection OP.
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