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Is my verbally abusive Bf cheating? Should I leave him? How do I stand up for myself better?

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Question - (24 December 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 28 December 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

my boyfriend and I recently had twins a boy and girl and I feel my boy friend doesnt love me no more !

I DO everything for him I cook, clean, give him sex when he wants it , i take care of the twins i told him 'if you want to help me with the twins you can but if you dont want too im okay with it.'

Our babies was at the grandparents' house and I was in sexy naughty nurse outfit and he turned me down. right now he's next to me being secretive with his phone !

When I asked 'who is he textin?' he told me 'a person dumba$$' i didn't say nothing or cry because my twins be in the room and I wanna be strong for them too etc.

-is he cheating on me ?

-does he love me?

-should I leave this relationship and live with my mom and twins?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011):

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (28 December 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony aunthe may be cheating on you

he may or may not love you

if he is calling you names and being rude to you and not helping you with your children that are his children also then yeah I think you should leave... take the babies, go live with mom, get a court order for child support and visitation and move on....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011):

first off i would leave someone for putting me down, second when he goes to sleep check his phone, to see who he is texting

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A female reader, VSAddict United States +, writes (24 December 2011):

VSAddict agony auntJust because you love him doesn't mean you should give him everything he wants. Are you always in the mood when he is or do you do it to keep him satisfied? And you shouldn't have given him the option of taking care of his kids or doing his own thing. He's the father and he needs to step up. Once again, don't take more responsibility off of him just to keep him happy, because taking care of his kids should not be an option for him. I'm not jumping to conclusions, but something could be up since he got defensive when you asked a simple question. You can stand up for yourself by not catering to his every need and making sure that he gives you something in return for whatever you do for him. Tell him that you don't like his defensiveness and whatever verbal abuse he's giving you needs to stop. If he can't respect you or imporove his ways within a matter of time, then you need to leave because you deserve better.

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