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writes:is my problem insecurity or not. i love my boyfriend very as he loves me. at times i know that he loves me and at times i just think he's out just for the physical thing. well, he is very charming and galz do love his company... he likes making comments on how hot his female friends are and occassionally goes out with them. well we are both from different races and at times i feel that he preffers the other race different from mine due to the comments he makes about my physical appearance and my accent.. i am indeed a very attractive lady but recently its making me feel less attractive. the last fight we had he was sick and tired about my jelousy and insecurity and that he said he loves me.. he gets very angry when i am insecure when he tells me he's going to catch up with his female friends or do anything that seems i'm jelous.. now i feel he loves me but in a few days later i may feel differently. wats wrong with me.. i am not afraid of loosing him either but i need the right sign to know that i should let go.. but i don't want to loose him easily if the problem is me.. wat to do
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reader, Queeny +, writes (27 May 2008):
Queeny is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou Peter Pan, for your unbiased answer, being a man. Your response shall surely assist me in waying my next options. i am probably ignoring my gut feeling as i have once felt, that if i could have a man that appreiates me and treats me like his only rose i'd be happy for once in my life. I jus need to gather my strength and do the right thing. Bless you
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reader, Queeny +, writes (27 May 2008):
Queeny is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou Peter Pan, for your unbiased answer, being a man. Your response shall surely assist me in waying my next options. i am probably ignoring my gut feeling as i have once felt, that if i could have a man that appreiates me and treats me like his only rose i'd be happy for once in my life. I jus need to gather my strength and do the right thing. Bless you
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reader, jozzc  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 Hey there,
Well, from your description, it sounds like your bf is a jerk. He really likes getting you all upset and seems to feed off of it. Believe me, if he left, it would not be a loss. If he continues to be disrespectful to you, by demeaning your appearance, accent, telling you how hot his friends are, then leave him to his friends. He is not worth demeaning yourself for. He just thinks he has the "upper hand" over you right now and likes to torture you. Please find somebody who loves and respects you, just the way you are. There are way too many people in the world to waste your time on this abusive jackass! :)
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (27 May 2008):
 To me, it sounds like you do have an insecurity issue, but I think it's induced from your boyfriend's behavior. He seems to be showing you disrespect by making excessive comments about his other female friends. In a way, it seems that he insights this reaction from you.
Personally, I think that you should find somebody that respects you more and values you more than any other woman in his life and expresses that to you as often as he possibly can!
Good luck!
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