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Is my mother in law coming on to me? I'm her daughter in law!!!! Helppp!!!!!

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Question - (9 February 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 26 May 2008)
A female age , anonymous writes:

New developments into my problem/dilemma with my mother in law(she is 68, I am 57) so I copied my previous post for reference. I am even more confused now as she did something. Anyway, she calls on Sunday and tells me that she wants us to go for a lunch as she discovered a great Italian restaurant and she knows I like Italian food. At first I said no, I can't today as I had planned to visit my own mother! But she insisted and she said she would pick me up.

In any case, she came by around 1 and I had made a special effort to look nice, even had a little makeup and lipstick. She always look great and feminine. Anyway we go to lunch and we had a bottle of wine between us, so it was easier to feel relaxed and the conversation flowed. I felt truly happy and alive, ever since my husband left me my ego had taken a severe blow.

As she spoke I tried so hard not to give way to my fantasies about her! I was doing fine until she started to talk ''funny''. She started to ask me how I was managing my ''needs'' and telling me that even though her husband was still ''fresh'' and demanding she sometimes got fed up of him, etc, etc. Out of the blue she told me 'you know, if you want to try to lose a bit of weight and exercise like I do, I can help you, two people can motivate each other better than one'. She then said 'you know, by the way, you have a lovely bust'(my breasts are very saggy, but they are a size 38E). I was speechless, and did not reply. She then said 'do you caress them when you are alone? '

I told her to please stop this kind of conversation and she said 'why? we are women and women talk a lot about these things.' I was speechless. When she saw that I was awkward she changed the subject and we finished our lunch, then we got into her car, and while driving all the time (20 minutes journey) she kept looking at my bust back and forth. I cannot tell you my state. I could not wait to be home! I told her I apologize and must be alone for a while, fortunately she also had to go home to her husband so she did not enter for a visit.

As soon as I got home, straight to the bathroom and ... well... predictable outcome. I was stunned. WAS SHE COMING ON TO ME? WAS THAT A LESBIAN COMMENT? I dared not think. All I could do was masturbate furiously, my orgasm reaching me by surprise and blowing my mind away. Of course whereas in real life I was so SHY when she commented on my breast, this time my fantasy was to open my front-fastening bra and to show her my large breasts, while fondling the areolas. Am I losing it? Can I hope for a relationship with this woman? I sincerely don't know what to do.

MY OLD POST! (long)

I'm a 57 year old divorced woman, mother of three children. Something happened 2 days ago that took me by complete surprise and I am still numb over it. My ex husband is younger than I am (50) and left me 3 years ago. I am still depressed, and were it not for my children I would have probably gone totally destructive on myself. I am also struggling with weight issues, I am very overweight and can't seem to stop eating or comfort-eating as they say.

On Tuesday night my mother in law, who is very loving to our family and absolutely adores her grandchildren, came to spend the night as my son asked her to. She is 68 years old and very feminine, she likes to look after herself for her husband who is still active. We had a lovely dinner and lovely evening laughing and telling stories. At about 2 in the morning my children all went to bed and I set upon to prepare her nightgown and show her into our study room where there is a guest bed. As I gave her the nightgown she asked me in a changed voice: ''Janet, I want to sleep naked. '' I was totally confused as this kind of talk was new between us. At the same time, I felt a kind of warmth that I did not understand. I just stammered ''oh why of course, please feel free'', and took the nightgown away. As I wished her a good night I retired into my room. As soon as I took off my clothes and slipped my own nightdress I lay on the bed. Suddenly I start to caress myself and masturbate.

I thought about her naked body and wonderful full breasts and tried to imagine what her pubis would be like. As I masturbated I imagined all sort of things between us like my mother in law nursing on my large breasts and yes, putting her tongue on my intimate love lips. My climax was something unbelievable. The next day I could not look her in the face. Since then I am going crazy. I am not a lesbian, although occasionally have surfed the web for women pics. Any advise or similar experiences would be appreciated.

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A male reader, JTalbott United States +, writes (26 May 2008):

JTalbott agony auntG'grief another fantasy fake post.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007):

If you were to have an affair with your mother-in-law it wouldn't be fair on your children, ex-husband and her husband. It's your children's grandma you are fantasizing about and it wouldn't be right to get romantically involved with her no matter how you both feel about each other. You have got to stop thinking about her for your family's sake. It's just not right. There's a possibility that you might be a bisexual. Consider going into another relationship with a man or woman before you do something with your mother-in-law that you will probably regret.

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (9 February 2007):

AskEve agony auntShe is your children's grandmother! What are you thinking of??? Do you want to totally screw up your children not to mention yourself??? Fantasies are all fair and well but they should remain that.... Fantasies!

There is something not quite right about your mother in law, she doesn't seem "balanced." I'm sorry to be so blunt but that's the way I see it. She seems to have a very warped mind suggesting things to you and talking to you in this way. She seems a very sad and lonely person who maybe even wants revenge on you because you and her son divorced. Be VERY WARY of her and if she starts talking like this again then stop it immediately!

Can you really imagine you and her walking about hand in hand as an item???? Can you imagine what it would do to your poor kids? Come on, grow up! You seem a sensible enough woman to know the difference between what's right and wrong. I can't quite put my finger on your mother in law's motives but I get bad vibes about her. She may be out to destroy you and make you a laughing stock. Don't stand for it, nip it in the bud now! Fantasise about it all you want, but that's as far as it goes! She's dangerous and playing a very dangerous game. DON'T become embroiled in it!

Eve

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