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writes:Is my husband cheating?I say yesbut I want you to confirm or give me a betterexplanationMy cell phone bill included a list of callsI confronted my husband because the person textmessaged claiming saying I love youhe said that he doesnt know the numberthe text messaging is screwyI called the number and of course a woman answereddenying everything claiming she shares a phone withher boyfriend. I found a hotel key in his walletI asked him why. He said he just has it and got defensive. Is it time to call a lawyer?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): Take it from someone who has been in your shoes...go with your gut instincts.
Have you been on any trips with him lately? Did he take you to a motel and forget to leave the key behind?
Your cell phone bill doesn't lie. How many minutes did each of those phone calls last? A wrong number doesn't take more than a minute to discover, and you hang up. Anything longer, and it was a phone call to and from someone that knows your husband.
Sit him down and have a serious conversation with him. He needs to be honest with you. He owes you that. Are you prepared for the answer? By the way, it doesn't mean that you need to get a lawyer. But it does mean, that if he really is having an affair - and you want to save the marriage, he needs to break it off with her immediately. No more calls. Have him change his number so she can't reach him, and tell him you are going to monitor the cell phone bill and will know if her number shows up again. If a number that shows up repeatedly, call it. I'm sure you'd remember the other womans voice.
These things can be worked out, but only if he is completely honest with you about what has been going on.
I found out about my husbands affair 1 year ago this April. We are working through it. But it hasn't been easy.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (31 March 2007):
 Hmmmm how long has this been going on for? Have you noticed any changes in him recently? Does he still want to make love to you as often? Does he come in late and rushes to shower? Does he still hold conversations with you or does he seem quieter than normal? Does he call you to say he's working late or stay out for long periods of time with silly explanations of where he's been? All this points to cheating!
If a hotel key is in his wallet it's been put there for a reason. Where did it come from? How long has it been there? What did he use it for? Saying "I just have it" is NOT a good enough excuse I'm afraid! I'd be watching him very carefully this next few weeks and check his cell phone when he's not around. Check the call register too to see if he's calling that number and her calling him back! Check his pockets, pants and jackets for notes or any evidence. Check his body language too. When you ask him a question do his eyes dart about... anywhere but look straight at you? Get back to me with answers to some of my questions and we'll discuss it some more okay?
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): Well, the signs are there, but maybe though personally I wouldn't do it, maybe you may consider hiring a private detective and see whether he is doing anything or not.
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