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skatewing16
writes:Hello i have been dating my girlfriend for about 2 months now, i have heard some weird things about her in those past 2 months that i haven't heard about before, she has had sex at least 30 times before me and her started dating and she still talks to all of her exs, idk if she is cheating on me or not but what do i do because she says "She loves me" like straight out says it after about the first week we started dating. I don't know if its the truth or not, I trust her but what do I do? is she telling the truth does she truley love me or not. She is like a huge sex addict though.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 Hi,
It does'nt appear she is a sex addict it is far more complex than just wanting loads of sex!
I am married to a recovering sex addict and believe me it would be something she would be good at hiding from you if she was but i really don't think at this stage you could tell i agree with one of the posts talk to her find out her values etc; morals too once you know her a bit better maybe time will tell whether you have trust issues with her or not.
This generation is somewhat different from when i was your ages iam 52 and was a virgin when i met my husband and married him and i have remained faithful for 29 yrs to him now i see by this site that must be a record in some of the young ones books but i am proud of this and i find it hard to understand why people sleep around so much.
Having said that i have 3 kids one your age and i know they sleep with girls as long as they are being careful and taking precautions and more importantly if and when they are in a relationship like yourself i would hope they would respect that individual as to being commited to them only and not sleep around behind there back there is nothing worse to find this out and i personally never understood why people do this but they do and when you are on the receiving end it is never pleasant.
I hope you both can talk and sort out your differences as you seem to have a few!You are both in a early relationship and i think way too early to be having doubts so i think you should talk to your girl ask her a few things that have you troubled don't sit on the fence with this as you will only end up worried and that is not healthy for any relationship i wish you well.
Ginanlolabridga
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): Fallow your instincts! Skip the ego part! You do not care who she was sleeping with and how many partners she had. you have an issue weather she can satisfy you emotionally!!! Person that is having lifestyle like that and consideres sex as fun is a good lover but a bad girlfriend! Involving emotionaly with somebody who you do not share the same values will make you doubt in your own version of realty so...THINK TWICE!!!
My sugestion is get to know her better and find out about her views on gathernes, closenes and loyalty...don't be too obvious! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Sometimes having sex with many people or a lot can be an insecurity issue. My friend says she feels sex makes her the closest she can get to someone and feels it is the only way to get someone to like her. Maybe shes insecure, maybe she is a nymph, who knows. But by saying she loves you so soon may be that she has self esteem issues and attaches herself to people who seem to care about her. She does not love you within the first week however. That has to be infatuation. I wouldnt say it was a lie, she may think she does, but not true love. It is impossible to know someone well enough and to love them within a week. All i can say is if you dont trust her and constantly are afraid she is cheating on you with her exes, you should not be together. Even though she may not be cheating on you, trust your instincts and realize that if you do not or cannot trust her, there can be no relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): I agree with the above... (guy talk though) if she's a hoe give her the throw. BUT if she's into you and loyal... you're a lucky man sir I commend you lol, you lucky bastard ;)
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (6 April 2008):
 Some people have furious sex drives! Talk to her and get to know her morals. If she doesn't believe in cheating and believes love is for life, why worry? Just make sure that all the sex she has is with you, so she won't need to look else-where! Eh-eh!
You'll find that practicing Catholics can be real nympho-maniacs, yet we're one=partner creatures.
I think you just need to get to know her better rather than asking other people.
God bless and good luck!
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