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writes:Hey,Saw my ex after a while of not speaking to each other, and we got on really well, and had a good time. She tells me to text her.. I text her and she doesn't reply. She used to do this quite a bit when we were together, but she specifically told me to text her, and she just hasn't replied. Should I just take the hint and just leave it, or persist with it, because I do really like her.Thanks.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (19 December 2007):
 Hi - you've touched on a very good point. Just because you can't get her out of your mind , doesn't mean you should be with her. You will definately meet someone else who is much better for you, much much better, but you won't if you are with this girl. It will put the better girls off.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (19 December 2007):
 You probably want her more because you know you shouldn't or can't have her.
It doesn't sound like a girl you should waste your time chasing - you've got heartache now but it sounds like you'd be in for a lot more if you got together.
I would cut all contact with her for a few months, avoid seeing her. Out of sight, out of mind. I know it doesn't totally work like that, but trust me, it is so much easier to get over someone when you don't see or speak to them.
Give yourself time to heal. I'll bet in 6 months time you'll wonder what you ever saw in her, and will have girls interested in you who want to spend their time making you happy, and texting back lol :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's definitely not her only negative point!She's younger than me, been suspended from school, does drugs fairly regularly, and generally treates me quite badly when we aren't together.We get on really well together, but it seems to be different when we aren't with the other. I know that the above are more than ample reasons to not want to be with her, but I just can't get her out of my mind.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (19 December 2007):
If you feel there is a relationship to save, then go for it.
If her only bad point is being rubbish at texting back, she can't be all bad!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks very much for the advice.. yes it does make me feel rubbish whenevr she doesn't reply (especially when she told me to contact her in the first place). For some reason I can't get her out of my mind, and really don't want to accept defeat and give up on her. I really want it to work, despite her treating me quite badly at times.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Seems to me she just wanted to see if she still had the control and it seems she does, she will either text you back or she wont maybe she doesnt have credit maybe she hasnt got your text or maybe she just didnt know what to say jus dont text her till she texts you.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (18 December 2007):
It sounds like she doesn't have any respect for you.
It might just be the kind of person she is, I have friends that take aaaages to text back, if they do at all.
It sounds like you would be wasting your time. You need to think what you would get out of the friendship, would it be worth you feeling rubbish everytime she doesn't text back?
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (18 December 2007):
She's messing you about to hurt you. Don't put up with it any longer. It hurts when she doesn't reply doesn't it.
Don't fall for it any longer. Enough is enough. Move forward. Don't look back.
Good luck
Richard
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I wouldn't text her at all. If she wants you she will be in touch. Just sit tight, if she doesn't respond to you within 3 days then I would move on.
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reader, anon_e_mouse + ♥, writes (18 December 2007):
 I HATE this texting rubbish. The problem with texting is you don't know whether they've received it, or read it, perhaps she doesn't have any credit? Perhaps she's just playing games? Maybe she wants to see how much you want her and to chase her? Maybe she's met someone else and just wants more attention?
WHO KNOWS?
With my last girlfriend I got sucked into a relationship where she communicated more to me via texts than in person or on the phone.
I'd leave it for a while. Maybe drop her a text at the weekend and see what she's up to?
THERE COULD BE LOADS OF REASONS WHY SHE HASN'T REPLIED.
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