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Is my desire to be bitten weird?

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Question - (29 December 2014) 5 Answers - (Newest, 30 December 2014)
A female United States age 26-29, *unkprincess writes:

hello everyone

i wold like to thank anyone in advance if you answer this question, i has been bothering me for sometime now.

my question is, is it weird that i like to be bitten?

now let me fully explain. when my husband and i are lets say, in the bedroom and things start heating up, i like to be bitten on the neck. and yes i've heard of many people liking small nibbles when being kissed on the neck, but i like to be bitten hard, like really hard. my husband doesn't mind doing it at all, he actually enjoys doing it cause it makes me feel good. i have defiantly come to the conclusion that i enjoy pain during sex. but i just don't know if this biting thing is normal. before he bites me he always says just tell me when to stop. and if i don't say stop he ends up stopping cause he thinks he's gonna hurt me. but honestly the harder it is the more it feels good, and the more it turns me on. i mean like he's bitten me so hard that there's been some blood, (don't worry i know how to treat it so it dosn't get infected) but please if anyone else hasw a similar situation please tell me, and please tell me if this is weird. thank you soso much in advance and i will be sure to reply to answers saying a personal thank you based on any answers given.

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (30 December 2014):

C. Grant agony auntI seem to recall hearing that for some people the wires get a bit crossed during extreme arousal, so that pain is interpreted by the body as pleasure. It's not that unusual, as the existence of S&M shops indicates. So as long as you're being safe, enjoy.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2014):

My GF likes giving and receiving love bites when making love.

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A female reader, punkprincess United States +, writes (30 December 2014):

punkprincess is verified as being by the original poster of the question

punkprincess agony auntthank you so much for the answers!

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (29 December 2014):

Ok, food for thought. Plenty of people enjoy pain during sex, and responsible people make sure they don't cause actual injury while they do it. Some people like hooks through their nipples and that sort of thing. Sterility is very important if you like that sort of thing. Care to avoid infection, and such.

The human mouth is FULL of bacteria and the risk of infection is very high, and it isn't pretty. When I was younger I punched another girl in the mouth, cut my hand on her tooth, and had a horrible painful infection for a month.

Personally, I would try to find some sort of safer alternative to your pain fetish. Go to a local S&M store and get thee some nipple clamps or paddles or something. Be safe!

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A male reader, no nonsense Aidan United Kingdom +, writes (29 December 2014):

Fetishes generally are weird except to the people who have them. They’re not rational, they are very random, and if some-one doesn’t have the same fetish it can seem weird that some-one else would like something so unconventional. I would find the idea that anyone wants to be bitten to the point where it’s painful very strange, simply because I can’t see how pain can be pleasurable. However, I’m not your partner. What matters is what he thinks and you say he enjoys it, so if it’s not an issue that’s coming between you, then don’t worry about it, it’s something you can enjoy in private. A fetish is problematic when it harms others, or it affects the rest of your life. You’ll obviously need to think about how you’re going to explain large tooth marks to people unless you are able to conceal them. You don’t normally see people with large bites in their neck. I am aware that a lot of people are critical of those who go out in public covered in love bites (that’s another phenomenon I personally don’t understand at all). If you get a reaction you can’t deal with, then you have a problem. So yes, to me it’s weird, but if it doesn’t get in the way of your life and it spices things up in the bedroom for you both, what I think doesn’t matter, and it’s a weirdness that isn’t problematic. Do what you like and be happy.

I wish you all the very best.

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