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writes:Everything was great on Monday. My boyfriend was really sweet, as usual. He hugged me, kissed me, told me nice stuff..and i felt really nice around him. It's not love, but it could be. Anyway, i knew stuff at home wasn't great for him...his mom and him fight a LOT soo..i never bothered asking him cause he'd get REALLY ticked off when i gave him advice or inquired about it. So Tuesday comes and he begins to ignore me. Like as if i'm not there. Just completely changed. I thought about it...and decided that maybe he needed some space or something...perhaps his mother made him really upset...so i ignored him too. It was then that he suddenly spoke up, claiming that he was really confused and everything was a blur in his head. I noticed how depressed and upset he got in just two days. His face was all..bitter...and he didn't smile or anything. It was as if he lost interest in me. He then asked me if i would be completely devastated if we broke up. Of course, i said yes..we've been together for four months and it's a pretty big deal...and it just makes me SO SAD that there could be a chance that he's suddenly losing interest in me. However, i don't know whether he's confused about EVERYTHING right now. It's all unclear and he still claims to be confused and feeling depressed and crappy and horrible. I don't know what my next step should be. I haven't dealt with this before. Has this happened to anyone? Why would he be confused all of a sudden just out of the blue like that?
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reader, softballplaya + ♥, writes (11 May 2008):
 aint that the truth!
yeahh but your doing the right thing about giving him space, sometimes thats the best thing to do is nothing at all ya know? If things dont work out then you know that he wasnt worth it anyways
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. I really appreciate it. Right now...there's just complete silence and he's not talking to me. so i really wanna see what will happen. if it is a stage, then its best to give him space. It really does suck. Girls are really sensitive and have to deal with this more often than guys =(
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reader, softballplaya + ♥, writes (10 May 2008):
i know what you mean, my bf told me I didnt have his whole heart anymore, I had 9/10 of it! Its very upsetting and guys dont even act like it bothers them while we are stuck feeling pain. so not fair. No you cant change his feelings but Everyone gets another chance with someone so if he does happen to end it he might just want some space and once home life gets better he will be back. To me it sounds more of a home life deal rather then him losing interest in you. Fights usually lead a person pretty down, Things will get so much better just give it time and patience girl. If you ever need to talk you can private message me because I know all about this and I will help you
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you soo much! I'm glad I'm not the only one who had this happen..but that helped a lot. if its going downhill, then i cant stop it..i cant really force him to take back his feelingsIt's just so upsetting =\
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reader, softballplaya + ♥, writes (10 May 2008):
okay well the same thing happened to me, I was with my boyfriend (ex now) for 4 months as well and things went downhill due o his mother too (crazy huh?) but they fought alot like your bf and his mom, its a personal matter really. Like you said about your bf getting mad if you ask him about it. Dont pry into it because it prolly makes him even more upset=/ I want to be able to give you positive stuff on this but in all honesty...from experience it might be going downhill. Im so sorry, why dont you ask him how he truly truly feels. Ask him if he still wants to continue a relationship with you. He would know the best about his feelings anyways ya know? The best thing I would do is to still let him know that you love him and that you still have feelings for him but you have to tell him that it will only hurt you in the long run if you dont know the truth about how he feels because believe me girl it will hurt alot more if you find out later then sooner. Things will get better. It could be a phase as well, If you fight with someone close like a mother and kid then it really takes a toll on you. He may just be upset about his home environment. Talk to him, Im sure he will be straight forward with you. Be patient and understanding and whatever happens keep your head high!
best of luck && take care girl
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