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writes: I have my boyfriend's e-mail password because I helped him apply for jobs. He gets Facebook notifications of messages and wall posts sent to him to his e-mail. Today he mentioned that because he gave me access to his e-mail, he changed his Facebook settings so that I wouldn't know about anything going on on his Facebook. When I asked him why he'd do that because it sounded like he was hiding something, he made sarcastic comments like, "I guess you'll never know." and wouldn't tell me what was going on. After about five minutes of going back and forth, he finally told me that no one was messaging him or anything. We usually have such an open relationship, but now I feel like he's intentionally hiding things from me (it's true that sometimes old girlfriends message him to say hi and ask what he's up to, and I've been upset about that before). I told him I don't want to be in a relationship with him if he can't be open. What's going on?
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reader, LoveIsStrongerThanPride  +, writes (16 July 2010):
 Join Facebook and add him.... you have a right to know who he is talking to but you can't demand it, you have to be careful because this insecurity can be a turn off to your boyfriend. He IS with you isn't he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): It does seem suspicious, especially if there is a strange, sudden change in behaviour, however its also possible that he isn't hiding anything, he is just worried about the potential of something upsetting you again for no reason, I say be cautious, and keep an eye out for anything that confirms your suspicious before you make any decisions
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): It is his account, he is entitled to his privacy. Just like you would not want to open his snailmail letters.
I once had a girlfriend, who demanded me to play new messages on my own answering machine. I didn't do it, but the relationship was soon over. (never cheated on her)
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