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writes:I found a woman's eyelash on my boyfriends dorm room floor it doesnt belong to me , and it was under his desk so It can't belong to his roommate... I also found blonde hairs on his clothing...I do not trust him and I'm afraid he may be hiding something from me. I get the feeling he is sometimesI confronted him about the eyelash and hair and he just blows me off like its nothing and It makes me angryHow should I handle the situation and what would you do ?
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reader, ChaChaCharmin +, writes (10 September 2014):
ChaChaCharmin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo it was fake lashes, the kin you glue onto your eyelid, and its pretty evident to spot on a white ceremic dorm floor.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 September 2014):
 When you say, Woman's eyelash - do you mean FAKE eyelash or an eyelash hair?
If it's the first, it could have been there a while, and even IF it was under your BF's desk doesn't mean the room-mate could have had a girl over who took off her fake eyelashes. They don't weigh much and can easily have moved from one spot to another JUST by the draft from opening a door/window.
If it is an eyelash HAIR the WHO the HECK knows who it belongs to? It a freaking EYELASH hair!
As for the blond hair on his shoulder.. Seriously? I went to Starbucks yesterday and as I got back in the car I found a bright PINK hair on my shirt, probably from the girl in front of me at Starbucks. I DID NOT have a DALLIANCE in Starbucks with the pink haired teen! OK?!
I have to say I totally agree with Uncle WiseOwlE, you are a VERY insecure individual and at some point in time your BF will have enough of you accusatory crap and dump you. Either you TRUST the guy you're with or you should WALK away from him. If you think he is cheating, IS that a guy you REALLY want to be with?
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reader, anonymous12345678910  +, writes (1 September 2014):
The eyelash and hair are not definite proof but they are a warning sign so bear that in mind and carry on with him as normal,without accusing him of anything again for now.The minute you get a bigger sign then accuse him straight the way and see what he says.Or if you get say 10 little signs like the eyelash.Don't worry,if he's cheating there will be other signs so you'll know eventually.You can tell from his reaction when you talked to him as well-if he's telling the truth about the eyelash being nothing he'd probably seem either amused or annoyed when you confronted him,if he seems really angry then that probably means he's hiding something
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2014): Obviously, something smells fishy there. Dont fool yourself. You know whats going on. Its just a matter of time til you accept it. Its time to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2014): Your mind is made-up. So it really makes little difference if he's hiding something. I agree, it isn't very reassuring that he continuously dismisses your suspicions and concerns. That's no way to treat your insecure girlfriend.
How do you find something as tiny as an eyelash? Do you dust for finger prints, go over his sheets with a black-light, and the usual snooping through his phone? Do you look through his room with a magnifying lens for clues?
What's your major, forensic investigative sciences? Did you also submit the hair for DNA testing?
Seriously, you've got a problem!!!
He can easily brush off your suspicions about blond hairs.
He can brush against a woman in busy hallway traffic, sharing laundry facilities, or just sitting next to a female in class; who likes to swish and thrash her hair about. Some would fall if his roommate brought a girl into the room, and they made out all over the place. So maybe you need to find better evidence if you're going to hold suspicions that he's up to no good. Two guys live in his dorm room!
I think you're unhealthily possessive and insecure. Maybe he's the wrong guy for you. I can assure you, that you're going to drive him away. If your gut feeling just will not let your rest, dump the guy. He's not going to openly confess that he's cheating. If he does, how do you plan to handle it?
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