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writes:Having an issue with my best friend. So, my best friend is gay, and, honestly, I thought that was the best kind of friend. A guy who could give me advice in fashion, be blunt about how I look, y'know. But recently he's been skinning me off... Like, he told me that he's been getting annoyed with his friends and just hates them now. I feel like he's treating me like that. We work together at the same place. I've worked there for SEVEN years! Since I was 12! And he's only worked there for TWO years! So, I have seniority, so I can cook in the back, which I prefer. But lately my friend has been, literally, yelling at me to work the register. He will scream at me. He NEVER does that. I'm too shy to assert myself, and since we're friends I don't want to ruin that, but I can't take being bossed around.What should I do? Should I stand up for myself? Like, how?
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 he's being a twat. part of being in a friendship is learning what behaviour to NOT tolerate from another person.
if you do something because someone screams at you, then you are teaching them thats how to get what they want.
he doesn't sound like much of a friend to me...
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 If his behaviour is out of character, ask him whats wrong. Maybe he has something on his mind, and needs a prod to talk about whatever it is. Friendships are, or should be, about honesty and you should be able to speak up for yourself without fear of loosing your friend.
Just start with: "Is something wrong, you don't seem to be yourself lately. And you've been taking your frustration out on me. Talk to me."
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