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writes:help my teacher continually stares at me in class her never takes his eyes of me always singles me out asks me all the questions makes me do stuff to him tells me i look gorgeous is he a pervert? he is about 30 but isnt married or with children he flirts with me and i flirt back but should i not? i dont understand him then he says comments in class that upset me and then apologises and starts a 'clean sheet' he has started about 4 this year alonei dont know what to do? any advice? thankyou...
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reader, NikitaDisraeli +, writes (3 June 2008):
MaddieRose, if she didn't want the attention, why would she go in to see him dressed as she describes, in a 'pretty short skirt on and some heels'?
Come on, this girl is clearly bull****ting.
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reader, maddierose  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Eyes wide open - you are not seeming to be very helpful.
Do go to a teacher or parent. It's not rigt if you don't want the attention.
Take care
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 May 2008):
 She won't tell anyone about this because none of this is real. It's just a schoolgirl's fantasy. Trust me, this young lady is not the slightest bit concerned.
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reader, Just-helping +, writes (3 May 2008):
TELL SOMEONE! seriously, you should disscuss this with your parents or other teachers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have been on holiday over the last week but he sent me an email as he continually always sends me them non stop, on one of them, because he also leaves x's one time i did not write any back and then he puts back, where are my kisses, dont you love me, i was like proper freaked out by this point as well you just dont put that, he asked me to go and see him as soon as i had got back of my holiday, aka, yesterdayso i went into school and saw him, he was sat on his desk when i walked in, with his legs open, as he always has them! another teacher who was in the room too, goes ******* you look really nice today (only cz i dint obviously have my school uniform on) and then mr *** goes yes its lovely to see you in your normal clothes, you look lovely. then he started flirting with me and stuff but its really getting to the stage now, where it is taking it further in what he saysi shall be back at school in a couple of days and then i will see how it goes, but because i had a pretty short skirt on and some heels, as i ws only popping into school then coming back out again, i saw him looking at my legs and then back upto me, i caught his eye whilst he was staring at my legs and then he looked straight away i was like, oh no! so yeah, i shall try and keep my distance, but he forever emails me and gets really stressed if i don't write back but i have tried not to write back before, but then he goes insane and says at school, well why don't you write back to me and i say because i don't want to!
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reader, PreciousNY +, writes (1 May 2008):
I do not think you are reading into this and there is a definite problem. You really need to report him....if not for yourself, for his new victims next year and the year after that. Your teacher's behavior is in no doubt inappropriate!! Stay clear away from him!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 April 2008):
Okay assuming what you say is true, why don't you follow the aunts advice and tell an adult about your teacher? Is it perhaps because you have fabricated some of this and because you actually like the attention? Let us know what develops AFTER you have discussed this with your parents or another teacher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): hi omg i have the same problem! my ict teacher always pervs on me and i swear he he wants to kiss me so bad, cos he puts his face next to mine and im really scared that he'll rape me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i do not fancy him like always tells me to get books for him paper when there is none left asks me to help him extra revision sessions after school, when i dont even ask for them
his comments are always just directed to me when he was been harsh to me saying things infront of the whole class, but then he apologises he says he's sorry but i say why do you do it in the first place, he says we can start again
i try and avoid him but the fact that if im wearing something or have nice shoes or or legs showing, he will go nice legs or nice shoes, you look really lovely
throughout an exam i had a couple of weeks ago, everytime i looked at the clock he was sat there staring at me so when i looked him with direct eye contact he moved his eyes away, did this about 7 times throughtout an hour alone but i noticed he wasnt 'staring' at any other students just glancing around but staring at me, when he was giving out paper i turned around not that i needed paper but i just looked over at him then he smiled at me and i just looked away.
but when he keeps asking for extra revison sessions, what does he really want from them, because on one of them, he started to put his leg on me, but i moved my chair away and by the time the time was up i had got to the otherside of the table!
he has also taken me home before, but he told me he had no insurance or a CRB check, but why did he tell me this?
thankyou for all your messages :)
and i know im not reading it wrong by the way
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Makes you do things to him? Like what? Be specific and clear
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reader, GothPod + ♥, writes (29 April 2008):
 It's possible that eyeswideopen is right in that you could be reading the wrong signs. However, if you are really truly worried this teacher could be perving on you (it's happened before) then the first thing you should do is tell another teacher whom you can trust. If he genuinely doesn't realise what he's doing, then if he has a warning he will stop. You should also inform your parents. And do NOT flirt back, as he will think 'I've caught my victim, time to reel her in.' If you bump into him, pretend not to notice and walk away. If the problem gets worse, then make sure you have a friend with you whenever possible.
Panicking won't help you. Try to stay calm and make sure you tell someone. If teachers are informed it is within their power to make it stop.
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reader, lets_party +, writes (29 April 2008):
 you young a little filting wont do any harm,
you can have a little bit of fun.
do u like him like that?
dont ad vance on the filting hes older and hes ur teacher so dont advance on the feeling that you have for him xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 April 2008):
Do nothing, I'm sure he means absolutely nothing by his actions and perhaps you are reading a little too much into them. The school year is almost over, if you don't like the guy then don't take any more classes from him in the future. You wouldn't possibly have a crush on the guy would you?
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reader, PreciousNY +, writes (29 April 2008):
I think that your teacher is way out of line and his behavior is inappropriate and needs to stop. I would advise you NOT to flirt back and tell your parents! I may even tell this teacher that if he doesn't stop with his staring, comments, etc. that you will report him to the school. This is a very serious matter and I don't think it should be taken lightly and you as a student should not be subjected to this.
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