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Is masturbation a homosexual act?

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Question - (2 February 2008) 19 Answers - (Newest, 8 September 2011)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

is masturbation in fact a homosexual act ? no matter who or what you think about you are still having sex with your hand and you come on yourself you are giving and recieving so its male on male or female on female. any thoughts?

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A male reader, balgus United States +, writes (8 September 2011):

balgus agony auntI thought if a man/woman lays with another man/woman you are gay. No two ppl can be of the same sex and have sex is what homosexuality is about. Now I hear you say having sex with your hand is equivalent to laying with another man/woman. Two ppl have to be present. You cannot count one person as two. It's like saying If you lay in a bed by yourself you are gay or walking down the street by yourself you are gay. No one wants to be alone but we live in a society where individuals can not impose their will on others. There are allot of ppl who would love to be in a relationship with the opposite sex but there is allot of interference in today's society. I call them Negative Liberties vs. Positive Liberties. Negative Liberties are from outside rules that we have to work around to attain our Positive Liberties which are goals we set for ourselves. Spiritually, morally and financially. I can go in a little deeper but I really want to know how can a man institute himself without being negative socially. I'm thinking of George Sodini the man who murdered 3 women in a gym. He tried his best to get counseling and create hobbies that would help him with his quest in dating women and spent 25yrs without any success. I myself am in that same boat having spent 18yrs and never married with no kids and no career. My admonishment is that ppl don't care and have no empathy for good men.

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (30 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntNope it's an autosexual act. There's homsexual, hetrosextual and autosexual and that's it.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (15 March 2010):

Miamine agony auntYes animals masterbate....

"Animal sexual behaviour takes many different forms, even within the same species. Researchers have observed monogamy, promiscuity, sex between species, sexual arousal from objects or places, sex apparently via duress or coercion, copulation with dead animals, homosexual, heterosexual and bisexual sexual behaviour, and situational sexual behaviour and a range of other practices among animals other than humans. Related studies have noted diversity in sexed bodies and gendered behaviour, such as intersex and transgender animals

Current understanding is that many species that were formerly believed monogamous have now been proven to be promiscuous or opportunistic in nature; a wide range of species appear both to masturbate and to use objects as tools to help them do so; in many species animals try to give and get sexual stimulation with others where procreation is not the aim; and homosexual behaviour has now been observed among 1,500 species and in 500 of those it is well documented"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Animal_sexual_behaviour

Includes tons of references to relevant research.

Indeed it's good to think outside the box, all animals (including humans show a variety of sexual behaviour)

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (15 March 2010):

Miamine agony auntmmmm.. you need to learn more Latin... quick look on Google and I found this.

soli-, sol- + (Latin: one, alone, only)

Homo is Latin for same, solo is Latin for alone.. therefore you are wrong. Masturbation is a solo-sexual act, and is not homosexual at all.

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A male reader, ccbob United States +, writes (15 March 2010):

It's definately not a heterosexual act. i think people are in denial about this. homo means *same* so if you have a penis in your hand and you ejaculate how can you say it's not a homosexual act? it doesn't mean you are a homosexual though. and to say you aren't thinking about yourself doesn't matter. your thoughts don't change the fact you are stroking a penis or rubbing your vag. i agree that most people have masturbated at some point in their lives but that doesn't make any difference either. if you are a guy and you stroked your friends penis but were thinking of a woman would it mean it wasn't homosexual? of course not. so it is with having your own penis in your hand. now to the person that talked about touching yourself in any way..... i hope it's not sexual when you are taking a piss or cleaning yourself in the shower. or if you are getting a physical by a male doctor. just because he touches it or sticks his finger up your butt for a prostate exam doesn't mean it's sexual. so all that is completely different. but rubbing one out for *release* is sexual. it feels good, your stimulated, and you orgasm. it's okay, it doesn't mean you are a homosexual. but it's not a heterosexual act.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008):

I think this is a good question. People don't want to think they're actually having sex/being sexual with 'themselves'. It takes self control to not do it. Many people Don't masturbate, they save it for their spouse...and it's hotter that way, and something to Really look forward to.

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A male reader, askJAY South Africa +, writes (23 December 2008):

askJAY agony auntLOL...

Simply put, masturbating is not considered a homosexual act.

now, if you are looking in the mirror and think yourself to be quite a hotty, it might just be borderline homo-like...but not homosexual...that would have to include another being(a male one of course).

interesting question though, makes you think haha

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A male reader, jay27 United States +, writes (7 June 2008):

No offense, but this sounds like a question from 50 years ago. All guys masturbate, whatever their orientation. And when I say all guys, I include married men. I have been married 20 years and still masturbate from time to time, and I know at least a few of my married friends do too. Anyway masturbating is NOT going to affect your orientation one way or the other. However your orientation will affect the fantasies you have as you masturbate. So stroke away!

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A female reader, Cherriepie United States +, writes (3 February 2008):

Cherriepie agony auntSO that means if you even wash yourself, that makes it a homosexual act? omg thats crazy! touching yourself isnt gay...its just touching yourself. gay is when you sexually touch another one who is the same sex as you. its no more complicated than that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008):

Ever been to a zoo. Monkeys masturbate. Don't stand in front of them when they do if the cage is just bars. :D

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008):

Hypothetical. Surely?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

this is a rhetorical question. its not about me. just trying to get people to think outside the box. besides what other animals masturbate?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008):

Depends - when you 'Pull your puddin' do you fantasize about yourself?

Come on - this has GOT to be a wind-up question and you're having a laugh, surely?

Not a bad one though. I'll have to think up one of these questions myself.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008):

I don't this that masturbation is a homosexual act, in fact I think its quite healthy to do it, girls will deny time and time again that they masturbate, but most do. I think everyone should masturbate to get to know their bodies, and learn what they like and what they don't like, its normal...so don't kill yourself over this...its stupid!

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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (2 February 2008):

birdynumnums agony auntOf course not, unless you are having an out of body experience.

Puff Puff Pass...

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (2 February 2008):

Dr Vendetta agony auntthoughts... yeah

lay off the weed. seriously... what the hell?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008):

Um.....NO....Masturbation is self stimulation.

Homosexuality is sex between two people of the same sex...

Masturbation fantasies can include anything and does not MEAN that you are homosexual if you have some same sex fantasies, it is when they become reality and are part of your own sexuality in practice that you are then a homosexual.....People are sexual beings and they often have fantasies that they would never even want to bring into the real waking world.....don't obsess over your sexuality.....it is what it is....and you are perfectly normal human to masturbate on occassion for sexual release.

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A female reader, Devilish Angel United States +, writes (2 February 2008):

Devilish Angel agony auntHaha...I never thought of it that way. It does make sense that since being homosexual means being with a person of the same sex, you are kinda being a homo. However, it depends on what you masturbate to.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (2 February 2008):

kenny agony auntI can't say that i have ever thought of masturbating as a homosexual act. The main reason being is that you are on your own doing it yourself. Masturbation is something that probably 99% of the population has done at some point in their lives, and so the answer to your question is no masturbation is not classed as a homosexual act.

All the best

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