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anonymous
writes:Hi, Hope someone can help me?!I masterbate I am a 14 year old girl. And I want to stop masturbating how do i do that? And is masterbating like having really sex? Please help. Thanks Carlar. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): It's healthy, natural and harmless... unless (as the previous post suggested) it's interfering with your everyday life. You're 14 years old, so you're discovering your sexuality and getting to know your body -- completely normal! Until you're old enough to have sex, do what you need to do and don't feel guilty! And, when you're ready to have sex, you'll at least have a healthy level of self-confidence and knowledge about what works for you so you can share that with a loving partner so it's great for both of you!
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reader, daglish  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 It depends on how u are starting to feel abt it. if its making you feel guilty the try to stop. First thing is to cut down on how often u do it and believe me, with time it will go
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reader, duce00  +, writes (1 September 2007):
 Hi there young anon female,
Your not the the first girl to ask a question like this. I know the boys do it too but they arnt being open about it like you are. You are brave to even bring the subject up because Im sure it isnt easy for you.
Unless you are in a strongly religious family or there is some other supressive factors going on, you shouldnt feel so ashamed. Even if you have heard its wrong I doubt the people giving you that advice have really followed it themselves.
The only reason you should stop is because of causing harm to yourself or it interfering with normal life. That isnt what it sounds like.
I agree with hlskitten, masterbation is more of a release thing. I dont really consider it sex because it doesnt have many of the qualities of sex other than getting off. Think of the differences. You cant get pregnant, you cant get your heart broken, you cant catch a disease, you cant fall in love with yourself (well thats possible but a different subject hehehe). Theres really no serious negatives other than your still alone once its over and that shouldnt be a concern of yours for some time.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): you don't need to stop unless it's getting in the way of everyday life, like not going to school cos you're too busy getting yourself off. its normal and don't worry about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): If you are stuck in a conservative aera, its more the reason to break the rules and continue, In Europe, it is a very common act of pleasure, and people are more laid back with it. Think of it this way, in America most teens get drunk like no other, in Europe people masturbate (almost like no other) but seriously, its a natural act, and since when is a natural act wrong? Just because parents or older people say so? No! Be yourself, Do what you like! Its your life, not the people around you, You make your choices, nobody else. Seriously, just be yourself.
Hope that helps
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (1 September 2007):
 Hi Carlar,
Why do you want to stop?
I wouldnt say its like sex no, its an extention of sex that results in the same ending (sometimes)
D.I.Y is usually a release thing. Sex is more enjoying the whole thing obviously with someone else.
But i dont understand why you feel you need to stop it?
C xxxxx
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