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writes:Hey guys,Me and my bf have been together for nearly 4 months now and I love him very much :) he's my first bf and i'm his first gf so it was kinda awkward in the beginning but now, it's great :) just to let you know, we didn't french kiss yet, just hugging and kissing and stuff ;) Me and my best friend, a guy in our class whose been attracted to me for a long time now, have been talking via chat to each other about having sex together. not about when, but just what it would be like and it really turns us on. We're not planning on actually doing it but we like to just talk about it. Is this considered cheating? because i do feel kinda guilty :$
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (29 March 2011):
That is cheating. At your age it is hard to have a serious relationship. You need to mature a lot more. And keep away from sex alright? For a long long time to come
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 March 2011):
Yes, it is cheating. You are talking about having sex with another guy whilst you have a boyfriend, and you know that he is attracted to you. So it's also a case of you playing thing other guy a bit too really.
Perhaps you are not yet ready for a relationship, if you are already doing this.
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reader, live2loveandlearn  +, writes (29 March 2011):
Generally if you feel guilty about doing something it means that it doesn't set with you because it goes against what you feel is right - in this case your gut is telling you that what you are doing is wrong.While personally I feel that you are still too young to be discussing sex just yet, I'm not here to harp about that. Most would claim that engaging in sexual discussion (that is not in a clinical nature, like with your doctor) with the intent of arousal is leaning towards cheating. If not cheating by itself, it does certainly open the door for the possibility, and how do you think your boyfriend would feel if he knew that you were having these sex chats with this other guy friend?Keep in mind that there are many kinds of cheating, not just full-out sex with another person. For example, you can become emotionally involved with another or have affairs through email and text as well.Basically listen to your own heart and answer honestly. Do you think what you are doing is ok? Do you think your boyfriend would be supportive? Or do you think he would be hurt by your actions? Your answers to these question will tell you what you need to do.Be careful and good luck.
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reader, Hvnslttleangel +, writes (29 March 2011):
Hi. Everyones idea of cheating is different. However, if you are having feelings of guilt you may have answered your own question. Keeping in mind anything that you have to hide from your bf is wrong. And you have to ask yourself would you be upset if he were doing the same thing with someone else. That's how I think of things. Do unto others as you'd have done. I hope this helps. Good luck!!
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reader, RMeg  +, writes (29 March 2011):
I wouldn't say its cheating,but if your current boyfriend happens to see these sort of messages he won't be very pleased about it ! My advice, rather talk to your boyfriend about sex rather then to this other guy !
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