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writes:Ok, my boyfriend and i got into a really big fight and decided to take a break. So, about after a week into our break i called my best guy friend over to make me feel better. We kissed. It was unexpected and neither of us planned it. We both agreed it didn't mean anything it was just out of comfort and never to talk of it again. I told my boyfriend and makes me feel as if I've done a horrible thing. Did i really do such a horrible thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Couples always go on "breaks" without ever clarifying whether or not it's okay to mess with others. That's where the problem starts. This needs to be spelled out in no uncertain terms one way or the other.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 February 2010):
You were on a break, so it wasn't like you were cheating. But clearly it's a bit of a kick in the teeth for him, because now he wont know whether you care for him or your best friend. So be prepared that he might not be able to take it and will move on.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 February 2010):
 Have you seen that Friends episode with Ross & Rachel? "WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!!" - you would be Ross here, and your fella would be Rachel. Yeah, they go through this too.
You didn't do a really horrible thing, but your boyfriend feels horrible about it. There's not much you can do besides assure him that you didn't do it to hurt him, it was a mistake and you're not going to do it again. I hope your boyfriend realizes the logic - you WERE on a break, meaning you were broken up for a week, and you didn't see yourself as in a relationship at the time. You didn't know you were being disloyal.
I can understand why your boyfriend feels crappy about it, but I can also understand your side of the story. He's just going to need to figure out if he can deal with it or not.
I wish you luck, sweetness!!
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reader, superwoman021 +, writes (11 February 2010):
it depends on the break, was it see other people or we're still together but need time apart, but its can go either way, you where on a break yes, but at the same time you probes shouldnt have done it, you should talk to your boyfriend and see how he feels about it. but personally i dont think its a bad thing xx
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