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writes: Is it wrong to avoid social situations where you ex, and her bf will be at the expense of your own happiness? Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Is it wrong to avoid emotional pain and trauma that you don't need? No. Heck no it's not wrong.
Avoiding your ex and her new guy will help you recover from your guys' break up faster and hey, go other places you like and hang with your friends. Nothing cures a heartache like friends.
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reader, Mrs. Darcy  +, writes (28 December 2010):
While it is easier to avoid your ex, you shouldn't let her rule what you do or where you go. You may be faced with this situation in the future with no hindsight, so just be you and have a good time. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): Avoidence is the best policy until you are strong enough not be bothered anymore. That time will come - but its best for you not be be put through the pain of seeing her even if it means not going to places you like.
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (28 December 2010):
Not at all. This is part of the distancing that must occur in order for you to be able to move on fully. No one need know why, as it is none of their business.
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reader, Abella +, writes (28 December 2010):
 while you still have any memories that cause you any pain or any distress about a past relationship there is nothing discourteous and nothing untoward if you choose to absent yourself from such situations.
Time and finding someone you can learn to like, trust, honor and love may lessen the pain.
It is your choice. Absent yourself with polite dignity. You do not have to explain your reasons to anyone. It is your decision.
And the reasons for your decision are
private.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (28 December 2010):
it's not a case of right or wrong, it's a case of doing what you feel happy and comfortable doing.If you think avoiding social situations because of your ex is affecting your happiness, then maybe you should start going to these socials.
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reader, impatientlywaiting +, writes (28 December 2010):
It's not wrong to avoid those situations, but is it really worth it? Follow through with your plans and attend social events. Go on, have fun and hold your head high, it will probably make her uncomfortable!
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reader, Tutti  +, writes (28 December 2010):
Yes, yes, absolutely yes! Ever heard of "ignorance is bliss"? Well, I cannot find an expression that is more fitting to your situation. Experts will agree with me when I say that the less contact you have with your ex, the faster you will recover from your heartache. I am talking from experience and this has helped me a great deal. Not only did I delete, block and ignore my ex on Facebook, but I blocked his number on my phone and his email address from my inbox. Now, I am so far over him, I have lapped him twice. I cannot even see my ex in the rear view mirror of my life! Move on - brooding over her while she is with another guy will bring you nothing but grief. Delete, block, ignore and avoid to your heart's delight.
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