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writes:I have been chatting with this guy in Europe for about six months now. I am VERY attracted to him and I think he feels the same way. We always have great chats and make each other laugh. He constantly tells me how beautiful and perfect I am and that he wants to be with me. We are both 22 so of course, we are bound to get horny. He always initiates those kinds of chats first and I was uncomfortable with it at first but then I couldn't help it, it is kind of exciting and I do want him really bad. So once in a while, we both end up getting naked on cam. I don't send him any photos and I know he isn't recording me either. He seems like a nice guy in real life and I would rather have him watch me than some other girl. I always hear how bad it is to chat with random guys on the internet but is it really so wrong to do this?
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reader, starlightgirl16 +, writes (11 August 2012):
To be honest I wouldn't do it, you don't know where the video could end up also by any chance is his name Arben ?? Just wondering because I know a girl online who said she was talking to a 22 year old guy from Europe and he was trying to get her to do the same thing..
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reader, Serpico +, writes (11 June 2012):
Sending naked imaages to someone in a different country that you only know over the internet sounds like an awesome idea.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 June 2012):
 It’s really wrong. Yes it is.
Like everyone has said… you don’t know that he’s not recording it. Of course in a few years when your friends find the video on some amateur porn site, then you’ll know…..
He’s in Europe. What possibility of a relationship do you actually have with this guy?
He is the one that initiates the sexual content… I’d see this as big red flags…
Clearly you know something is wrong with what you are doing or you would not have asked……
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reader, claireh96  +, writes (8 June 2012):
If you have to question it, then I think you know in your heart that its wrong :( xx
Some guys are all talk. It's pretty easy to keep up an act of 'nice guy' whilst talking to a pretty girl online, but he could be completely different in real life.
Does he ask you to get naked or do you voluntarily do it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2012): How do you know he's not recording you? I would and there is no way you'd know either. I'd record you as a means for insurance in case you recorded me and also just to have in case I ever wanted to show my friends after we'd finished our liaison.
It's not wrong OP but if you don't like the idea of being recorded and having it uploaded to porn sites then you're very naive.
Google 'stickam capture' and have a look at how many girls who 'knew' they weren't being recorded have had their videos uploaded to the Internet.
Who knows youmay even find yourself already uploaded and please don't coke back saying you don't use stickam, there are just as many for skype, Google hangouts etc.
Is it wrong to chat random guys on the Internet? Not morally no. But in terms of safety it's exceptionally dangerous because all your info is online. You wouldn't tell a stranger your meet in a bar your phone number and address yet it would take five minutes to find that stuff online. You may think that's not true. Well Google your name. I can easily find your city, I'll find your district from your school. Check your old high schools site and find activities you participated in. Look for those specific activities in that area. If you post your location etc on facebook I'll track your movements. If you have it set to private and don't add me as a friend I'll add everyone on your friendslist and view your page through them or make a fake company page from listings in your local area. I will use all the bits and piecesof info scattered around the Internet to find the answer to the security question to your email account.
OP the posters before me warned you of the emotional fallout. Now imagine for a second the guy was like me and had the skills and determination to destroy you if you piss him off. It took me two hours to completely erase and fuck up the online presence of a girl who was blackmailing my girlfriend. All her email addresses, facebook, twitter, even her logins to blogs etc. Everything gone. Now imagine I wanted to physically harm her, I knew everything about her, where she worked, lived, what time she finished work, what bars she drank in.
It's not wrong OP but it's very risky. You might aswell be walking down dark alleys alone at night naked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2012): It's dangerous what you are doing and he could do a screen print of the picture he is seeing of you and send it to someone else, post it on facebook or anything.
Why not find yourself a proper boyfriend,closer to home? Then you know who he is.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (8 June 2012):
 You have never met this guy and can't trust anything he says. Never send any pictures of yourself, let alone naked ones, to anyone. If you send them via the internet, which you have, they remain there forever. For all you know he could be putting them on a porn site and playing you along to get more. Lots of people seem nice, and perhaps he is, but you can't trust someone you only know online. I would not even give pictures of me dressed online because you never know how they are going to be used, and you do not want your image out there floating around.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (8 June 2012):
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Your an adult so it's up to you. You know the dangers ,you know he could be sharing it with his friends, you know that you, naked, could be all over the worldwide web.He will tell you anything to keep you sweet,how do you know he isn't recording you, you don't know.
Ofcourse he says your beautiful and perfect, if he didn't then you wouldn't talk to him or get your kit off and perform for him, for free, would you?
The fact your on here asking if it's wrong means you have doubts.If he was your boyfriend and you knew him well,then you could trust him,obviously,but he is a virtual stranger,thousands of miles away.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 June 2012):
 First, you don't KNOW that he is not registering, because you don't really know him and have no idea what he is capable of.
Second, it depends from your expectations. You are an adult, and if you decide you want to show off yourself naked,it's neither right nor wrong, it's just your personal choice.
But if you are doing this with the idea that it will bring you closer, or that it will lead to a relationship, or that he'll like you more,... the chance is less than remote,close to zero. Like Aunty Em says, he is just using you as a source of free porn. If this does not bother you, then I guess it's right . If it does bother you, then it's wrong.
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (8 June 2012):
 6 months is quite a long time for a long distance "chat". Are you guys in a relationship or are you just friends? My husband travels a lot and I'll admit that I've done this a few times with him--but just like AuntyEm stated, we are in an ESTABLISHED relationship, whereas you're not. Ultimately, it is up to you to determine whether or not this man is worthy of your affections online, but I should warn you that there ARE ways of recording what you're doing, whether he denies it or not. You could however just make sure NOT TO SHOW YOUR FACE....that might be an option for you if you are intent on doing this. Other than what I've already mentioned, my best advise to you would be to NEVER let your guard down. Always be aware and remember, that even though you think you know him, there is NO WAY TO BE SURE OF THAT.Best of luck!
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (8 June 2012):
 Hmmm yep sure it's up to you to do whatever you want but do not delude yourself.
You do not know he's a nice guy in REAL life because you never met him in real life.
You do not know that he isn't recording you. There are programs and computers that can record without your knowledge and how do you know he hasn't got a separate camera out of range of your vision...you can only see within the field that he shows you.
Men pay a lot of money to watch women get naked on cam, so you are just like free porn to him and as he initiates these conversations it;s fair to say that thats what he really wants.
How likely is it that you will meet this guy? How will he treat you knowing you take your clothes off for a complete stranger???...and he is a stranger because you have not met him face to face.
I dont see anything wrong if people who are in an established loving relationship do this sort of thing but you are not involved like that so why are you doing what he tells you and getting naked for him?
Be aware that this is manipulation for sexual thrills and not much more at this stage...it has nothing to do with romance, love or commitment and those are the only things worth building a relationship for.
Refuse to get naked...then see how long he wants to talk to you.
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