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writes:Hi this is a tough one, Im a 27 year old woman and i recently started back at college in september last year, I became close friends with a 17 year old boy we have become really close we get along so well and have same interests and hobbies our relationship is getting stronger and he has recently told me he has fallen for me. Am i wrong to feel the same way? if i listen to my head I feel i should cut all ties with him but my heart says age is just a number and i would regret npot taking a chance im confused please help, Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2013): You're both of legal age. Lawfully, there is little to stop either of you. Morally... it's a grey area and my advice would be the same if your genders were reversed. Equality between the sexes must be absolute in these matters, especially. You cannot have Cougars be socially acceptable, but have older-guy-younger-female relationships be tacky.
I would say go for it, you only live once and all that.
But be careful, at 17 it may not last... but the same can be said of ANY relationship at ANY age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2013): What are you thinking? Why are you even entertaining the thought of involving yourself with a 17 year old boy?I would highly suggest getting yourself into counseling and deal with your issues and stay away from children. You are almost crossing some serious boundaries and in most states a well known way to get your ass put in jail and have a sex offender label on you for the rest of your life. No matter how much you think you have in common, you do not. A 27 year old female should be in a very different place in their life than a 17 year old boy...Go play with guys your own age and don't screw this kids life up. Of course he will be game for any of it...an older women??? He does not have a fully developed brain to understand the consequences of any of it. And you are taking full advantage of it. Go get some counseling and sort out why you do not have anough common sense to realize you are really, really asking for trouble with this idea of yours. Ugh.
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reader, when nothing goes right go left +, writes (26 February 2013):
 Although some relationships with an age gap can work he's only 17 he is very young and although you are both interested now the fact that you are probably both at different stages of your life and he is likely to want to play the fields and is still maturing and getting to know himself. And you would get alot of slack of his friends and family and yours too, and
even if you don't care about what others think you would be facing alot
of hurdles to make this relationship work and there will be other guys
that you could have a connection with who is more similar in age to you.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 Confused about what exactly. You are embarrassed what other people will think of you. People do say stuff but thats life I have heard it she to old for him and he to young thats a young man she a grown women. Who cares really people always talk about age appropiate relationships. They find.anything to talk about if you were taller than him that would be a topic
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 February 2013):
 i have friends who met when he was 18 and she was nearly 30... their daughter is now nearly 5.... their wedding... beautiful
my only concern is that he's only 17.....
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reader, human_male  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 I don't think there's anything wrong with it, if you're willing to take the chance. Seventeen is legal in the UK, it's like the US where they might actually lock you up.
Go for it. I wish you well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): I'm 18. My boyfriend is 31. I regrets NOTHING.
People will find it weird at first, but the ones who matter will understand.
If you love each other, don't care about the rest of the world.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (25 February 2013):
 Are you crazy? Any teen of 17 years would be ECSTATIC to bed a woman of such advanced years as you!!! Go for it! Reciprocate!!! Make him YOUR's!!!!!!!
Good luck....
P.S. Any chance your grandmother is still available?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): Whether people like it or not, 17 year old's in most parts of the world are of legal age and can make their own mind up on who they want to go out with, so you both have the right to make a decision to be together if that is what you both want.
Yes some people will frown on it, others won't bat an eyelid. If people did things in their lives to please other people rather than themselves, they would live a very un-contented life. The important thing is to live your life the best way you can to make you as happy as possible, so if being with him will make you happy, then I say go for it.
People wouldn't be so bothered if he was 27 and you was 37, but I also know if this was something so terribly wrong, it would be illegal. Its ok people criticising you about this matter, but I very much doubt they would let anyone else make their decisions for them if they was in your shoes right now.
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reader, Makayla5893  +, writes (25 February 2013):
I think you need to let him go. I don't think anything good can come from dating a teenager when you are a mature woman. As someone else pointed out, the relationship is unlikely to lead anywhere as he 10 years behind you emotionally, financially, spiritually, sexually, and experience wise
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reader, TheMoonlightphoenix +, writes (25 February 2013):
Hi im moonlight. You and him have 10 years between you well so do my mum and dad theres nothing wierd about it at the end of day love is love no matter how you find it. If you love him and he loves you go for it im not saying it'll be easy at first some may not accept it but theres always people who try and get in way i love my boyfriend with all my heart but my parents hate us togeather you just have to fight for it when you truely love someone. Hope this helps. Good luck.x
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