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Is it weird to see if they would be interested in a date, after all these years?

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Question - (15 June 2015) 8 Answers - (Newest, 18 June 2015)
A male United States age 36-40, *ourAverageJoeS writes:

So i have a question for all you women.

If you accidentally run across an old acquaintance after nearly 10 years (who you really didn't talk to very much) is it weird to see if they would be interested in a date?

This person was coincidentally a friend of a friend i met years later.

When I met her 10 years ago i didn't act on it and she got away and i regretted it for years. I dont like to waste a second chance but I also dont want to blow it. What are your thoughts?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (18 June 2015):

Honeypie agony auntIs she single?

If she is, then why not? What do you have to lose?

Would I find it strange? Well, since I'm a married woman I would :) BUT if I was single? I might give it a shot if you were interesting.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (17 June 2015):

eyeswideopen agony auntLet us know how it goes.

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A male reader, YourAverageJoeS United States +, writes (17 June 2015):

YourAverageJoeS is verified as being by the original poster of the question

I definitely have a little reservation to ask (like most people would), but i still planned on it. Im very picky when it comes to finding someone (a good mix of looks and personality) so i dont find what im looking for very often and for someone to make the impression she did on me has never happened before. I just figured i would get a womand opinion on whether it was weird or creepy to make sure its not totally weird. Thanks

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (17 June 2015):

eyeswideopen agony auntJust ask her out, at least that way you will get your answer and won't be wondering about any what ifs.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (17 June 2015):

CindyCares agony aunt Tbh, yes, I'd find it a little strange, after 10 years. But strange- in a good way, so to speak; even if I wasn't interested, I would find it flattering.So go for it, what's the worst that can happen ? that she says no thanks ? ... Life will go on, I assure you :).

Nothing ventured nothing gained !

If what you actually want to know, how many chances of success you have, how can we answer? We do not know her, and we do not even know if she is single (maybe you can that out through your mutual friends before asking her out ). Or, she might just be out of a r/ship and not be looking forward to dating yet etc.etc.

My point is that, while there's no guarantee that she'll accept - then again you do not have to be so afraid of " rejection " nor take it personally, because rejection may very well be situational ,not personal.

In any case , I don't see what would you have to lose. Worst case scenario- you don't get your date and things stay the same as now. I don't think she is going to press charges or to sue you because you dared to invite her out !

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A male reader, YourAverageJoeS United States +, writes (17 June 2015):

YourAverageJoeS is verified as being by the original poster of the question

You really dont think so?!?! I dont think she actuslly remembers me like i remember her. I really thought highly of this person back then and obviously still do if I recognized them 10years later. She seems to be the type of person I am into and back then i really think there was something but i didnt act on it. Id like to think we are both on each others level physically. How would you feel if this happened to you as a girl? What is yourage for comparison?

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (16 June 2015):

No, I don't think it would be weird if your paths have ended up crossing again. I think you should give it a go.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (16 June 2015):

eyeswideopen agony auntGo for it, not in the least weird.

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